The Power of Alignment. 🚨 · Reality Architects.

Daniel Tejada

Jul '24 (edited) • BeAnythingNow. Archive

The Power of Alignment. 🚨

As you guys may know, my partner and I have been adjusting to life as new parents recently.

It’s been 7 months since the birth of our first child Ariael Michelle Roni Tejada-Scott.

Although his birth was traumatic, to say the least...

Ari has been the complete opposite and brought us so much joy since his arrival into this world!

As you can imagine this kind of change has taken us a while to get used to, especially with our work and our schedules.

Both of me and

@Lauren Scott-sbicca

are very ambitious and creative, so the illusive work-life balance has been really tricky to navigate.

For context, my partner is in her 2nd year of running her own business as a Spiritual Coach and Akashic Record Reader while I on the other hand am entering 1 year since last being employed and about 7 months into initiating my first steps into the world of coaching and content creation.

At first, we split our time down the middle once Lauren was ready to get back to work.

However, we quickly realised that it just wasn’t enough time for her to be able to scale her business.

We both are firm with our boundary that Ari needs time with both of us and all together so our work time was cut down to 26 hours in a week.

With this set up Lauren was able to fulfil her responsibilities with her clients but she did not have enough time to work on anything that would bring in growth.

As for myself, I found that starting from scratch was more difficult than I had anticipated and often found myself battling with self-limiting beliefs and mental blocks that made it difficult to gain traction.

So last week we decided to sacrifice our sleep and talk about our future and what we truly wanted long into the night.

Risky as new parents but one thing we always prioritise is getting on the same page.

Because Lauren was seeing a lot more traction with her business we decided to switch things up.

We got aligned and decided to split our time and focus in a way that meant Lauren was able to make the most out of her current trajectory.

I was still able to work on my business however without having the pressure of making it profitable ASAP.

This means that as a household we could increase our income and everyone's needs would be met and then some.

Yesterday we managed to find some more time to get on the same page and catch up.

So we did, we spoke openly and honestly about how we are finding the changes and how we could further meet our own needs to be what we needed to be for the family at this point in time.

We created a list of things that would feed our Soul, Mind and Body.

(I will talk about this in another post more in-depth)

Then we got aligned and instantly we both felt lighter and ready to continue.

The power of alignment is that it allows you to be part of the process, not just the one trusting in it.

You see our society tells us both directly and indirectly that we need to be busy busy busy.

Whatever we’re doing we mustn’t stop.

We must keep on keeping on!

The problem with this is that it doesn’t allow for retrospection, it doesn’t allow us time to reflect.

It doesn't allow us to ask ourselves if what we are busy doing is actually going to get us to where we need to go.

The thing with being out of alignment is that regardless of the effort you put in, you will still just end up going in circles.

Being out of alignment t isn’t always about not knowing what you want or not having clear goals.

Sometimes you know EXACTLY what you want but because you are out of alignment either internally or with your peers you end up creating conflict and confusion rather than making progress and solutions.

Both of these require effort but the results will depend on whether or not you prioritised alignment.

I know that this can be difficult to prioritise because taking time to reflect doesn’t feel productive.

You're not actually DOING anything.

However, It is a passive act of love and care for the people involved in the process.

So whatever you are going for, whatever you are wanting to achieve in your life.

Whatever goals or projects you have in front of you.

I encourage you to take time at least once a week to check in with yourself or check in with those involved and make sure that:

The path you are on
The time you are spending
The things you are focusing on

Will actually get you to the desired destination.

I will link the updated weekly priorities MindMap template to help you do this.

https://whimsical.com/mental-farming-foundation-updated-july-2024-XbVaiLeidL5iHBhBq8efUe

The Mental Farming crash course in the Classroom is a great resource that can help you.

Your future self will thank you for it and you will find yourself being able to do less but be more effective as you trim the fat and get laser beam focused on the things that actually matter.

PS.

Do not use this concept as a way to beat yourself up for not doing things that are in “alignment”. Everything is in alignment naturally.

The universe likes balance and equilibrium.

Everything is either guiding you or giving you an opportunity to make a choice of who you want to be in that moment. ✨

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