Jun 7 • Business Experts
Business Experts: How To Get Unstuck In Life - Myron Golden
The Importance of Taking Action
- Most people lack the intention, intensity, and velocity to move towards their desires, and as a result, they never reach a point of no return, which is why getting started is crucial, and once started, moving forward with enthusiasm is necessary (00:00:07)
- The concept of "start before you're ready" is essential because the start often stops people from taking action, and many individuals spend years preparing without ever taking the first step (00:00:52)
- Internal resistance to starting is a common phenomenon, and it exists due to anxiety over past pain and the fear of future discomfort, which can be overcome by taking immediate action (00:01:37)
- The body and mind are skilled at remembering pain, and this often leads people to avoid pain more than they seek pleasure, resulting in resistance to starting new things (00:04:21)
Overcoming Resistance to Starting
- When considering a new endeavor, anxiety builds up due to the memory of past pain and the awareness that disruption often follows intention, making it essential to push past these feelings and take action (00:04:40)
- The experience of starting something new is often less daunting than the anticipation, and taking the first step can lead to a sense of accomplishment and momentum, as seen in the example of getting on an assault bike or taking a cold plunge (00:02:49)
- The idea that "most anything" is less intimidating once started is a key concept, and recognizing that anxiety over the future is often based on past experiences can help individuals overcome their resistance to starting (00:03:34)
The Experience of Starting and Momentum
- The concept of "runner's high" is mentioned, implying that once individuals push past their initial resistance and achieve a sense of momentum, they can experience a sense of euphoria and motivation (00:05:17)
- Many people feel like they are going to die when they reach a certain point in their lives, but once they get past that point, they feel like they are going to live forever, and this concept is similar to the runner's high, where most people do not go far enough to break through to that point (00:05:22)
- The concept of the point of no return is also applicable to flying an airplane, where there is a specific point on the runway that determines whether the plane will take off or crash, and this point requires a certain speed to be reached in order to take off successfully (00:05:47)
The Point of No Return and Velocity
- In order to break through to success, one needs to have enough velocity, intention, and intensity in the direction of their desires, and most people never have enough of these qualities to even have a point of no return (00:07:41)
- Getting started and moving forward with intention and intensity is crucial, as one cannot inch their way up to success, and it is necessary to be all in or all out in order to achieve success (00:08:18)
Overcoming Past Failures and Applying Principles
- People often resist getting started due to past memories of failed attempts, but correlation does not equal causation, and the reason for past failures may be due to the principles applied being weaker than the opposing forces (00:08:38)
- The example of a 747 airplane, which weighs 987,000 pounds, is able to fly despite the force of gravity, demonstrating that with the right principles and forces, it is possible to overcome obstacles and achieve success (00:09:37)
- There are principles that are greater than the principles of gravity, weight, and drag, such as thrust, lift, and momentum, which can help overcome obstacles when applied correctly (00:10:10)
Understanding Fear and Anxiety
- Anxiety over past pain and fear of the future are common issues, but it's essential to understand that fear of failure does not exist, and what people experience is anxiety over failure, which is a different concept (00:10:48)
- Fear is caution over a real and present danger, whereas anxiety is caution over a future imagined danger, and the two create the same physical reaction in the body, but they are not the same thing (00:11:16)
- The story of riding a Segway at a golf course and encountering a 12 to 15 foot alligator illustrates the difference between fear and anxiety, as the physical reaction to the alligator was fear, not anxiety (00:11:25)
- The difference between fear and anxiety is that fear is a response to a real and present danger, whereas anxiety is a response to a future imagined danger, and if there is no real and present danger, there can be no fear (00:12:39)
- Failing is not dangerous, but rather undesirable, and the perception of potential failure can cause anxiety, which is a caution over a future imagined danger, not a real and present one (00:13:10)
- Anxiety can create the same physical reaction in the body as fear, including a rapid heartbeat, sweating, and shallow breathing, but it is not the same as fear because it is based on a mental projection of a future outcome, not a real and present danger (00:13:48)
The Power of the Mind and Thought Replacement
- The mind is powerful and can create mental movies that can either empower or disempower, and learning to harness this power can change one's life (00:14:19)
- Anxiety over past pain is a significant issue, and understanding the difference between fear and anxiety is crucial to addressing it (00:14:32)
- People often get stuck in life due to anxiety over past pain and ambiguity over potential pleasure, making it easier for them to imagine negativity rather than positivity, and this can be attributed to their past experiences where they have had more things not work out than work out, which amplifies the painful experiences and makes them more vivid (00:14:39)
- The mind has a tendency to automatically imagine and focus on the negative outcomes of a situation, making it harder for individuals to take action and move forward, as they can see more clearly the potential pain of failure than the potential pleasure of success (00:15:14)
- To overcome this, it is essential to learn the concept of thought replacement, which involves stopping the habit of conjuring up past memories and imagining negative outcomes, and replacing it with a positive and clear mental image of what one wants to achieve (00:18:16)
- Creating a mental movie of a perfect day or a desired outcome, by describing what it looks like, feels like, and who is involved, can help individuals to see more clearly the positive outcome and draw them towards it, rather than being held back by anxiety and negative thoughts (00:16:46)
Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety
- Starting before one thinks they are ready can be a good idea, as it allows individuals to take action and make progress, even if they do not feel fully prepared, and having someone who knows more and has experience can help guide and reassure them that they are ready to take the next step (00:17:46)
- Ultimately, the key to getting unstuck in life is to learn to see more clearly the positive outcomes and possibilities, rather than getting caught up in negative thoughts and anxiety, and to take action towards making one's desires a reality (00:18:58)
- Anxiety is defined as caution over future imagined danger, and it causes individuals to waste present energy on a future outcome that is undesirable to them, which can lead to a perpetual trap (00:19:21)
- Anxiety can prevent individuals from taking action to fix problems because they are wasting energy worrying about the issue, and even if they get a good idea to fix it, they may not have enough energy left to implement it (00:19:39)
- To overcome anxiety, individuals must learn to recognize it and discipline themselves to stop wasting energy on worrying about future problems, and instead focus on the present moment (00:20:15)
- Recognizing anxiety involves taking inventory of one's thoughts and identifying internal resistance, hesitation, or negative self-talk, such as asking questions that demand a negative answer, like "what if it doesn't work?" (00:20:28)
- Asking questions that build anticipation, such as "how awesome is this going to be when it works?", can help shift one's focus away from anxiety and towards a more positive outcome (00:21:18)
- The opposite of anxiety is anticipation, which is the energy individuals get when the outcome they expect is desirable to them, and it can fuel them with energy and motivation (00:21:41)
- To replace anxious thoughts with anticipation, individuals must learn to intentionally shift their focus towards the outcome they desire, and practice this discipline in real-time, even when anxiety is present (00:22:42)
- Replacing anxious apprehension with joyful anticipation requires intention and discipline, but it can help individuals break free from the perpetual trap of anxiety and take action towards their desired outcomes (00:23:20)
The Stages of Transformation
- The stages of transformation include awareness, intention, decision, discipline, recognition, and celebration, and accomplishment can be seen as a form of transformation in itself (00:24:06)
A Real-Life Example of Taking Action
- In 2001, an invitation to speak at a conference in Birmingham, Alabama, was received, but there were financial constraints, including not having enough money for a plane ticket or to produce cassette tapes for the event (00:24:32)
- A $1,500 order was placed with a cassette duplication company in Jacksonville, Florida, to produce the tapes, which was a significant amount of money at the time (00:25:21)
- Due to the short notice, a road trip was undertaken from Pennsylvania to Jacksonville to pick up the tapes, and then to Birmingham, Alabama, to speak at the conference (00:25:42)
- Upon arrival, a coach provided feedback on the order form, suggesting an alternative approach, which was taken, resulting in the reprinting of 600 order forms (00:26:36)
- The speaking engagement ultimately took place on Sunday morning in front of a smaller audience of about 135 people, and an offer was made, following the coach's advice, which led to a successful outcome (00:27:25)
- Before making the offer, family members were contacted to pray for success, and despite initial nervousness, the offer was made, resulting in a positive response from the audience (00:27:37)
- The experience of doing $5,900 in sales in 45 minutes was the most money made in the shortest amount of time, and it led to further opportunities such as speaking events, where $6,600 was made in Cleveland and $8,800 in Baltimore (00:28:13)
- The success of these events would not have happened if waiting until everything was ready to do it right, and it was a lesson in taking action despite uncertainty (00:28:57)
Creating a Newspaper: The Planning Process
- In the past, third-party validation tools like health newspapers were used to promote nutritional supplements, which cost $50 for 100 papers, and the idea was to create a similar validation piece (00:29:15)
- With no knowledge of graphic design or newspaper production, the decision was made to start a newspaper, and the process began by calling printing companies to find one with a web press (00:30:14)
- The search for a printing company led to a referral to a company in Jacksonville that had a web press, and a meeting was set up to discuss printing a four-page tabloid (00:31:12)
- The printing company quoted a price of 1.9 cents per piece, which meant that printing 100 papers would cost $19, and printing 10,000 papers would cost $1,900, making it a viable option for selling the newspapers (00:31:45)
Creating a Newspaper: The Execution
- To create a newspaper, Microsoft Word was initially used, but it did not have the necessary dimensions, so the printing company was called for assistance, and they recommended using either Cork Express or Adobe Illustrator (00:32:17)
- Adobe Illustrator was chosen, but it was difficult to use, so the printing company was called again, and a lady spent three hours teaching how to use the software (00:32:52)
- After learning how to use Adobe Illustrator, a newspaper was designed, and an interview with Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G. Allen, authors of The One Minute Millionaire, was arranged to feature in the newspaper (00:33:27)
- The interview with Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G. Allen was conducted over the phone, recorded, and used to write an article about their book and network marketing, with a focus on Robert Allen's quotes and experiences (00:34:31)
- The newspaper featured articles about network marketing, The One Minute Millionaire, and a particular network marketing company, as well as an advertorial for the book and a feature on the company's leaders (00:35:25)
- Despite not knowing how to make a newspaper initially, the final product was successful, and hundreds of thousands of copies were sold, demonstrating the potential for success with the right strategy and partnerships (00:35:59)
Lessons from Taking Action
- Buying newspapers in bulk resulted in a lower cost per unit, with the price decreasing as the quantity increased, such as $50 for 100 newspapers, $350 for 1,000 newspapers, and 25 cents per piece for 10,000 or more newspapers (00:36:14)
- Some lessons can only be learned by taking action and doing the thing, rather than trying to plan out all the steps beforehand, as life is unpredictable and doesn't always follow a set plan (00:36:49)
- The importance of starting and taking the first step was emphasized, with the phrase "beginning is winning" being referenced, and the example of publishing a newspaper and getting started on a project despite not being fully ready (00:37:02)
Collaboration and Creative Projects
- A conversation with Bernie Stevenson, a music minister and musician, led to the idea of collaborating on a music project, with the speaker writing the words and Bernie creating the music (00:37:27)
- The collaboration resulted in the creation of an album, with the speaker writing songs such as "Free in the Land of the Free" and "In It to Win", and Bernie composing the music and mastering the tracks (00:38:23)
- The process of creating the album involved sending songs back and forth, with the speaker's brother Mark also contributing to the project by writing a song (00:39:11)
- The album was completed and duplicated into CDs for sale within a short period of time, with the entire process taking only 14 days from the initial conversation to the finished product (00:40:14)
- Selling products, such as CDs, can be a successful venture, especially when done independently without the need for production companies or record labels, allowing for greater control and profit (00:40:31)
Overcoming Fear of Judgment
- Starting something new can be intimidating, but it is often the start that stops most people, and letting fear of what others may think or say can hold individuals back from taking action and potentially succeeding (00:41:27)
- Having an affinity for other people's opinions can be a major obstacle, but it is essential to remember that people will always have something to say, regardless of the outcome, and that it is better to focus on taking action and learning as you go (00:41:33)
The Benefits of Starting Before Being Ready
- Getting started before being fully ready can be beneficial, as it helps develop a mental model and allows individuals to learn and discover new things through action, rather than just contemplating and imagining (00:41:56)
- Taking action and getting started can help discover measurable metrics and deploy manageable methods, making it easier to break down large tasks into smaller, more manageable steps (00:42:26)
- Many essential answers and solutions can be found by taking the first step and getting started, rather than waiting for everything to be perfect or known, and it is often through action that individuals can learn and grow (00:43:08)
- The idea of getting started can seem daunting, but it is often the only place where it feels dangerous, and taking small steps and learning as you go can make the process more manageable and less overwhelming (00:43:20)
Taking Action and Learning Through Experience
- The concept of taking action and getting started is reflected in a Bible verse, "If any man will do his will, he shall know the doctrine," which suggests that taking action and doing what is known is necessary to receive further guidance and understanding (00:43:47)
- Breaking down large tasks into smaller, manageable steps, and focusing on one step at a time, can make the process of getting started and taking action less overwhelming and more achievable (00:44:41)
Setting Intentions and Making Decisions
- To get unstuck in life, it is essential to set an intention to succeed, which means making a commitment to achieve something without putting a time limit on it, and this intention should be made without setting specific goals (00:45:10)
- Setting an intention is different from setting a goal, as it allows for flexibility and focus on the process rather than the outcome, and it is crucial to make a decision to start working towards the intention, rather than just making a choice (00:45:18)
- A decision is a covenant with oneself, which means making a promise based on love and respect, and it requires cutting oneself off from other possibilities and committing to the chosen path (00:46:45)
Building Confidence and Discipline
- Making a decision is about trusting oneself and keeping one's word, and people who have broken their word to themselves in the past may struggle with trusting themselves and having confidence (00:47:40)
- To build confidence and trust, it is necessary to make and keep decisions, and to develop discipline, which means doing what one is supposed to do when they are supposed to do it, and doing it consistently (00:49:09)
- Discipline is about sticking to one's intentions and decisions, and it requires a commitment to doing things the right way every time, and by developing discipline, individuals can become more confident and trustworthy, and achieve their goals (00:49:24)
Conclusion: Getting Unstuck and Achieving Goals
- Ultimately, getting unstuck in life requires setting an intention, making a decision, and activating the discipline to stick with it, and it is essential to become the person who no longer lets themselves off the hook of their intentions, decisions, and destiny (00:49:47)
- Starting before being fully prepared can lead to arriving at one's destination much earlier than anticipated, as this approach often yields faster results (00:49:56)
- The concept of taking action before feeling completely ready can be applied to achieve goals and make progress in life, allowing individuals to reach their desired outcomes sooner (00:50:01)
- The importance of taking initiative and beginning one's journey, even if not fully prepared, is emphasized as a key takeaway, with the hope that it will be helpful to those looking to make progress and move forward in life (00:50:09)
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