Life is lived forward, but understood backwards
Have you ever had that realization moment of something that happened in your past became almost instantly different, because you remembered it from a new, fresh, older, wiser perspective? One of these impactful moments for me was remembering watching my dad sacrifice [i] who he was and wanted to be [/i] to take care of his family. Family is always more important than any individual's happiness. A college drop-out, dad pursued graphic artistry and was making a pretty good go of it until laser printers came out. He picked up a job as a manager at a pretty major reptile & aquarium store on the other side of the city. He went back to school at nights to learn how to code, I remember some giant book with like an "A-" on it and I know for sure he had some C# and C++ books. Come to think of it, that does mean he set a pretty good impression on taking your studies seriously also, and he made sure to remind me a few times "this is not what you want to do, go to college before having a family, don't drop out, keep your head on straight." etc. etc. So, the whole reason he started this night college program to learn code was because my uncle (his brother-in-law) had just acquired a company and needed an IT dept. manager. It was a pretty big operation - contracts with several states and government agencies to aid in fulfillment. I got to start working at 14, helping stuff envelopes, run a large postage printing machine, I mean heck, that's some exposure to business operations from a young age. As the summers went on, I eventually turned 18 and could start answering the phones in their call center. Sometimes Dad and I would ride into work together if I wasn't on nights. From my perspective, I'm getting to work a great summer job for $9/hr which was way more than bussing tables and dishwashing at the pizza joint for $5.15 an hour (minimum wage at the time) From my Dad's perspective, he's grinding out a managerial job for over a decade helping my uncle grow his company, day in and day out, some weekends on call, even.