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Easier Ways is here to help a person stay sober, trust their own wisdom, and build a life they want without the need to rely upon traditional recovery methods. That said, there is nothing here that will contradict what is found in any support program.
At Easier Ways, we know thereās no single path to sobriety. What works for one person might not work for another, and thatās exactly how it should be. Therefore, we respect whatever helps someone find their footing.
Thatās why weāve taken a deep dive into the different approaches out there and created a resource center to help people explore their options and figure out what fits for them.
And even though every method has its own language and focus, all of them rest on a few shared foundations: honesty, open-mindedness, a willingness to startā¦ and as you go, humility and commitment.
Then there are a few things that donāt always get talked about, but when you step back and take an objective look, especially through the lens of behavioral science, they start to stand out pretty clearly.
š¢ The thing a person trying to change? Itās almost never the real problem. Itās a symptom, a sign that something deeper is asking for attention.
š¢ Relapse isnāt some kind of personal failure. More often than not, it just means the help the person had didnāt reach the real need underneath.
š¢ Every one of us has core psychological needs. The need to feel safe. To experience variety and adventure. To feel appreciated. To love and be loved. To avoid pain and experience joy. And when those needs arenāt met? Weāll do whatever we can; sometimes in ways that help, sometimes in ways that hurt, to try and meet them. thatās when life can start to feel complicated, and overwhelming. Unsafe.
š¢ Every single one of us runs on patterns; patterns of thought, patterns of behavior.Ā One of the deepest habitual patterns is the feeling that the present moment is not good enough.
š¢ Everyone is capable of change. In fact, we do it all the time. We change our minds, our opinions, our plans. But the trickier part isnāt surface-level change. Itās the deeper stuff, the beliefs weāve been carrying for years about who we are and how life works. A lot of those beliefs made sense at some point. They helped us feel safe, in control, or at least able to make sense of things. But over time, what once protected us can start to hold us back. The challenge is, we tend to see what we expect to see. Thanks to confirmation bias, we accept the evidence that supports our old story and ignore the stuff that doesnāt fit. Real change starts when weāre willing to get curious about those old beliefs, to ask, āIs this actually helping me now?ā And if itās not, to make room for something new through insight. When we see differently, we live differently.
š¢ We donāt think our way into a new way of living. We live our way into a new way of thinking. Thatās how a life of purpose actually takes shape. And letās be honest, a life without purpose or meaning? It sucks. Thatās why I love what Howard Thurman said: āDonāt ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.ā
š¢ Self-awareness is key to doing life in a way that helps you worry less, laugh more and accomplish your goals.
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