Aug '24 (edited) • General discussion
⚫️ BASICS; The Six Human Needs
So there's this guy, Tony Robbins. You might know him as a life coach and motivational speaker, right? Well, he came up with this thing called the "Six Human Needs."
Robbins says that our inner psychological needs influence everything we do, from our emotions to our choices and overall well-being.
Got it. That's definitely worth thinking about.
Robbins proposes that a deep understanding of these six needs can be a game-changer. It can provide profound insights into our own selves and significantly enhance our relationships, leading to a more meaningful and purposeful life.
And I have to agree with Tony.
It's been about five years since I learned about Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs, and it's been a game-changer for me. I've seen how it applies to my life, and I truly believe that understanding these needs can help people who want to start fresh, stay sober, and succeed. Now, I will add that the key is to recognize that change is possible, that we have the power to shape our lives, and that it is worth the effort.
So what are these needs?
These needs—certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth, and contribution—shape our behaviors and emotions in a big way.
When we recognize what needs are driving our thoughts, words, and actions, we can make more mindful decisions that align with our values and goals.
Certainty
The need for certainty is about feeling secure and safe. We all crave stability, routine, and comfort. This need drives us to seek out predictable environments and avoid pain or discomfort. Whether it's having a stable job, a safe home, or knowing what to expect in our daily lives, certainty gives us a sense of control. However, too much certainty can lead to boredom and stagnation.
Variety
On the flip side, we also need variety—the need for uncertainty and change. This might seem contradictory to the need for certainty, but it's essential for excitement and growth. Variety brings new experiences, challenges, and surprises that keep life interesting. It's why we seek out new hobbies, adventures, and even challenges. Without variety, life would be dull and predictable. Boring!
Significance
We all want to feel important and valued. The need for significance drives us to seek recognition, respect, and a sense of purpose. This need can be met through achievements, relationships, or making a difference. However, when the need for significance becomes too dominant, it can lead to a desire for power or attention at the expense of others.
Love and Connection
Human beings are social creatures, and the need for love and connection is fundamental. We seek relationships where we can give and receive love, whether with family, friends, or a romantic partner. This need is about feeling understood, appreciated, and connected to others. When this need isn't met, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Growth
The need for growth is about constantly improving and expanding. We feel fulfilled when learning new things, developing our skills, and evolving. Growth gives us a sense of progress and helps us avoid feeling stagnant. Without growth, we might feel stuck or unfulfilled, as if we're not living up to our potential.
Contribution
The need for contribution goes beyond personal gain; it's about giving back and making a difference. Whether through volunteering, mentoring, or simply helping others, contributing to something greater than ourselves gives us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. It reminds us that we're part of a larger community and that our actions can have a positive impact on the world.
Now...
When our inner needs are left unfulfilled, it can lead to a sense of emptiness, frustration, or dissatisfaction. This can drive us towards destructive behaviors, such as excessive drinking, as a misguided attempt to fill the void.
Here's how it works:
Certainty: If you lack stability or security in your life, you might turn to alcohol to create a temporary sense of relief or predictability, even though it's harmful in the long run.
Variety: If life feels monotonous or boring, you might seek excitement or escape through drinking. Alcohol can temporarily provide a break from the routine, but it can also lead to dangerous and reckless behavior.
Significance: If you don't feel important or valued, you might drink to boost your confidence or feel a sense of importance. This need for validation can drive you to drink excessively, seeking approval or recognition in unhealthy ways.
Connection: Feeling disconnected or lonely can lead to drinking as a way to fit in, bond with others, or numb the pain of isolation. Alcohol may seem like a way to connect, but it often deepens the sense of disconnection over time.
Growth: You might feel stuck or stagnant if you're not growing or evolving. Drinking can become a way to escape from the discomfort of not progressing in life, but it only reinforces the cycle of stagnation.
Contribution: When you don't feel like you're making a difference or contributing to something larger than yourself, you might drink to fill the void or distract from a lack of purpose. It's easy to fall into destructive habits without a sense of meaning.
Yeppers. If we're not getting what we need emotionally and psychologically, we might try to feel better by doing things like drinking too much. And it could be anything we use to find happiness - you know, like sex, drugs, rock and roll, work, or constantly scrolling social media. This might make us feel better initially, but it can cause long-term harm.
And it will eventually.
But we're not stuck in this cycle forever. When we've truly had enough, we can decide to change. We each have the power to create a life that fulfills our needs in healthy and positive ways.
When we've had enough, it's easier to break the cycle if we address the real reasons why our needs aren't being met.
This process of recognition and action puts us back in the driver's seat of our lives, giving us the power to make positive changes.
And that's what we are all about around here.
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