Aug '25 • General discussion
Stop Saying Your Kids 'That's nice!'
When your child proudly shows you a drawing, a Lego tower, or a funny little invention… your instinct is to smile and say:
👉 “That’s nice!”
👉 “Good job!”
But here’s the problem:
Those words, though well-meaning, train kids to look for external validation instead of building internal motivation.
Every time we say “good” or “nice” — we close the loop.
The child thinks:
➡️ “Was it good enough for mom/dad?” Instead of:
➡️ “Am I proud of what I created?”
And that small difference is HUGE.
Because creativity and imagination thrive on self-expression, not approval.
🌟 What to Say Instead
Next time your child shows you something, try:
- “How do you feel about it?”
- “What part do you like most?”
- “What made you think of this idea?”
- “Are you happy with what you created?”
These questions shift the focus from your judgment to their reflection.
They encourage kids to:
✔️ Think about their own process
✔️ Take ownership of their creativity
✔️ Learn that the value of art or ideas comes from within, not the outside world
✨ Why This Matters for Imagination
If kids grow up always chasing gold stars and “good jobs” … they stop taking risks.
But when they learn to trust their own joy in creating, they grow bold, imaginative, and self-driven.
And in the AI age, this is everything.
Machines can replicate skill.
But only humans with confidence in their imagination can create new worlds, new ideas, and new futures.
💡 So the next time your child shows you their messy, magical creation — don’t rate it.
Ask about it.
Let them feel the power of their own imagination.
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