A mom sent me a screenshot of a day when she felt like she had eaten “so much food”. It was less than 1500 calories. Her case is not unique. Women often have small stomachs. They eat quickly and get up to care for their children. They graze (this is me!). They let the kids eat first and eat what’s left. They absorbed diet culture as teens and still look at a full plate of food as “too much”. They think any fruit besides berries, or a serving of potatoes, will spike their blood sugar and lead to insulin resistance. They are trying to eat only or mostly “whole foods” but also what visually look like reasonable servings. And the numbers don’t add up. These are the same women reaching out with severe chronic anemia, stubborn extra weight, thyroid problems, poor sleep, low hormones, weird cycles, and generally feeling unwell. The good news is there is probably nothing fundamentally wrong. The bad news is, this takes time and practice to shift. Your sleep and cycles may improve before your weight moves. It can take a month or two to get real energy back, because at first when your body gets more food it may go into sleep and repair mode. Your cortisol goes down and you may feel like you got hit by a truck. You may feel extra emotional. There’s a lot of awesome on the other side but people get demoralized by the first few months and need encouragement to follow through. This is where a coach or friend is really helpful to hold the long view and help you see progress more clearly. At first it may be less snapping at the kids, or not losing your phone 20 times a day. You might enjoy your food again or not feel drained by an evening out with friends. One day you feel like taking a long walk or tackling that gardening project. Then you kick the soccer ball with the kids for 10 minutes without wanting to die. They are delighted, and so are you. Your life is getting fun again. Not every minute, but many parts of every day.