Breathwork Journeys for Parents - overcoming the victomhood - And a rave about Sandras amazing experience.
Time to write about 2 things. One . . my experience with Sandra's breathwork
  1. How to liberate parents from the victimhood that is SO easily fallen into because of the broken fragmented way our culture is currently raising children.
I continue to share breathwork with mom friends and I'm almost always met with "I cant do that with a kid" Oooooh. And my heart feels heavy in this. Because I too go there. I wasn't able to wake up before my child for 4 years unless I wanted to also wake her up - and that defeats the purpose of waking up early to do my self care. So i am grateful that now at 4.5 years later, I'm able to wake up to do my practices. AND. . . my first experience of doing breathwork with her was accidental. Sandra's journey. I was putting her to bed and hoping she'd fall asleep before the journey began. But I had earbuds in to keep an ear out for what was happening. She wouldn't go to sleep that night. So I began to do the breathwork lightly while she was still awake. As soon as Sandra started I began to cry. I was soon weeping and my daughter reached her hand up to my face and caressed my cheek and held me. She didn't ask what was happening. After 5 or 10 minutes I felt called to speak into the space that 'I am safe. . .that I'm simply releasing and being guided through this journey to be held and release emotions that I never got a chance to release growing up." Something to that effect. My daughter continued to cuddle with me. The scream came and I screamed. The second scream came and I warned her I'd do it again. She was so relaxed, so accepting, so holding of all the big emotions. Part of me judged that she shouldn't be holding me. I've always cried openly in front of her. But part of me always wonders . . .is there a boundary? I'm not asking her to hold me in it. It feels like that's the boundary. But she's learned through the ways I hold her . .and her beautiful innocence that she came in with and knowing of how to hold unconditional love. . . how to hold me and others anytime there's pain. She feels it and speaks into it sometimes. The other day she told me she was giving this mans anger to mama gaia to hold.
I digress. So after the 2nd scream she fell asleep. All that time she said maybe 1 word. The journey was so powerful. I had just done Mona's Inner child journey and it felt like a full circle to come back around and be held by my own daughter in such a deep process.
This gave me permission to then do another journey during the daytime when she was awake. I asked her if she would play in the living room while I am in the bedroom doing a breathwork journey. She said ok. . . .here's the thing. Kids understand when our work is important. She doesn't want to play on her own if I'm doing something that isn't in my highest truth. But she knows when it's important work or a deeply important conversation I'm having.
So I did another breathwork journey with her in the living room. She came in a couple times. . .used tuning forks on me, brought me a drawing she made, gave me what most would identify as reiki, simply popped in and out checking on me as she went about her joyful play. <3
So. . . maybe this post is more about all of that. And. . .I'm also holding in my heart - - how to encourage mothers to create these experiences for themselves when they feel so bound by their children being around. Mothers are the key to our healing. If the mother has space for healing then she can hold space to raise the child with a more clear blueprint - not imprinted with so many traumas. And my heart has ached for years being stuck in the victomhood of all of this myself. And now it feels I'm reaching the edge where I can jump into supporting women and families without the lens of victimhood. And. . .I'm open to receiving the messages and channeling the answers I need to hold the space in a divine and empowered way. "midwifing a cultural shift" one of my teachers says. If we heal at the root of the mother - - what's possible for our world?
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