I initially thought of our 5 yo son who can be quite strong willed. His is bedtime and not wanting to go to sleep. I've done choices with him and sometimes he goes to bed mad. As Katie mentioned the piece about worrying how someone will react I thought of our 7yo son who can be very emotional and I sometimes catch myself trying to prevent a melt down. He's at the age now where I was able to talk to him out of the moment and share how sometimes I step in too soon trying to prevent and actually end up causing problems and that I will try to allow him to work through things but that I expect him to go take a break on his own if he feels his emotions rising too much and he was ok with that. That was just a couple days ago so we will see how had works out.