2d • The Human Side
I learned one thing in 2025...
It was probably the most difficult thing I had to do. It felt wrong. I felt like I was disappointing people. It’s something I’ve struggled with forever.
I learned to say “no” in 2025.
For some people, this is not a big deal, but for me, it’s a struggle. Many of these “nos” were for social moments that I just simply could not commit to without completely burning out. Many of them were also for favors that I simply could not abandon my time for. Some of them were business related.
I pride myself on being extremely reliable and trusted. The downside to that is people can begin to EXPECT you to show up any time, anywhere, and drop everything you’re doing for them. In part, I set this expectation because I am always willing to help, but the reality started to set in that I couldn’t help everyone and I could not afford to
burn time and effort by always saying yes.
I found that once I decided what aligned with my needs/wants/values, it became much easier to say no to something that didn’t fit. What I found to be the most important aspect of saying no was that it put me back in control. The tension, anger, and frustration was mounting because I felt like I was losing my time and control. Once I started saying no, I was back in the drivers seat.
It’s made a world of difference. This isn’t a new lesson, but if you have ever felt like this, just know you can say “no” and your world and the people around you who matter will not change the way they think of you.
I took control back by saying no and it has allowed me to deepen relationships and continue to grow. I never thought that would be the case.
Please feel free to share your thoughts, insights, and experiences on this.
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I learned one thing in 2025...
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