“You Knew What You Were Signing Up For”

I want to challenge one sentence that I've seen damage remarriages.

“You knew what you were signing up for.”

When people say that, what we really mean is:

“This is how I am.”

And underneath that is this belief: If you love me, you should just accept it.

But marriage is not an acceptance contract.

It is a transformation covenant.

Remarriage especially.

You don’t get to freeze your flaws in place and call it your personality.

You don’t get to defend patterns that hurt unity because they were visible before the wedding.

Growth is not optional in remarriage.

And if we’re honest, sometimes we use that sentence to avoid the harder work — humility, change, and surrender.

If you’ve ever said it, ask yourself:

Was I protecting the marriage…or protecting myself?

There’s a difference.

The faster you can become self-aware,

The faster you and your spouse can become one. ♥️

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