9d • General discussion
Mission Three Communication
If empowerment is learning to hear yourself, communication is learning how what’s inside you comes out and how it lands.
Communication isn’t just what you say. It’s how you ask, how you respond, and how you negotiate together to find what works for all of you.
When communication is off, we often hurt the people we care about most. One common way this happens is when we’re communicating with charge. Emotions like fear, anger, hurt, or urgency are driving the moment, so words come out sharper, faster, or heavier than we intend.
Before we focus on what to say, we start by learning how to work with that charge.
This is one of the most important skills to learn. It’s about slowing yourself just enough to feel what’s underneath a reaction before it comes out sideways.
There’s often an awkward learning curve here. Things can feel clumsy at first. That’s normal. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re practicing. The best time to plan or practice is when there is no charge.
Your mission, should you choose to take it
Make a short list or grab a post-it and write down a few things that help you take the charge off.
Journaling
Moving your body
Going for a walk
Talking to someone safe
Taking a shower
Napping
Whatever actually works for you.
Then, the next time you feel charged, practice doing one of those things before you say or send anything.
Tomorrow we are going to talk about pleasure skills (it may not be what you think so stay tuned)
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