Respect and trust are a huge issue for me and I am sure others. Once you disrespect me I stop trusting you but I will respect you from afar. I never wish bad upon people, always good. Just doesn't mean I have to like you. How do you all deal with disrespect?
I feel society kinda wants us to be in relationships and if we aren’t there’s something wrong with us. So i say when single, date your self, practice self love. It took me a long time to learn this and that sometimes the best person you can be with is you. So all my single folks i challenge you. Take your self on that ideal date. Buy yourself those flowers. Go to dinner, an arcade, take that long sunset walk on the beach. TREAT YOSELF RIGHT 💅. Also I’m adding a song that kinda helped me learn this and motivated me to do what i wanted someone to do for me. So i wouldn’t expect less. https://youtu.be/DQXPnwxnbbo?si=g-k24Q7FHeLBXd-I
Hey everyone! If you are interested in the line dancing lessons please head over to discord or follow the link! I’d like a couple more responses before tomorrow to determine when the first class is!! Demo will also be out Saturday evening http://whenisgood.net/wtsh5hs
As I reflect on our club call last night, a lot of us talked about overthinking and people pleasing. When we hear things from someone we admire or get some news we’re not excited to hear, we rush into thinking about worse case scenario and start thinking of every possible outcome. 99% of which isn’t reality. So this quote is a reminder that perspective is so important!
I was reading an article about a young man named Kevin Cooper who tragically lost his life last year at 14 years old. He was a very successful entrepreneur whose whole life was rife with hardship. He never gave up, but only worked harder. And this quote from his memoir hits hard because I don't believe that word is, to be frank, worth a darn either. The amount of times I've told myself I "can't" has cost me probably more than I realize. "Don't ever take 'can't as the answer unless you've verified that it is against the law or against the powers of physics" -Kevin Cooper
It's amazing when you see God send you exactly what you need to hear each morning. This app is excellent. This is quoted from this mornings devotional on a new reading plan I just started. THE FIRST COMPLEX EMOTION CAPTURED IN THE BIBLE "The first complex emotion captured in Scripture was the emotion of shame. Shame is an identity-crippling emotion and is very different from guilt. Guilt says, "I made a mistake," and shame says, "I AM the mistake." This is because shame is based in the idea that there is something wrong with our identity - something wrong with who we are. This produces a fear we are unlovable. Our emotions are a direct by-product of what we believe about ourselves. If we doubt our worth and fear rejection because we believe we are "bad," it will hinder our ability to process ourselves accurately. We see this in the story of Adam and Eve who used to walk and talk freely with God before the fall. However, shame entered their world immediately after eating the fruit, which changed how they heard God walking in the garden. Instead of running towards Him, they ran in the opposite direction because they feared not being accepted anymore because of shame. Note how negative, complex emotions tend to move us away from God. When a person is racked with shame-type emotions, if often causes them to run, hide, and cover up. Psychology calls this behavior a defense mechanism. Theology calls this behavior a stronghold. A stronghold is any behavior we turn to to hold safety. ....God is not afraid nor surprised by our complex emotions. His first question to us as human beings whilst wrestling with a complex emotion was, "Where are you?" Genesis 3:9. What we feel and wrestle with matters to Him. This is encouraging. Adam and Eve had made the biggest mess up of all mess-ups. What they did still impacts us today, and God loved them through it." God loves you through it all including the messy emotions. That was just what I needed to hear to bring me back to reality. The anxiety-induced shame I tend to feel is not a reflection of who I am. I am NOT a mistake nor are my shortcomings. I hope you all find some peace in this devotional. Have a beautiful day!
Good Morning! Here is something I feel as if a lot of people struggle with and it can greatly affect your mental health. Lots of times we surround ourself with people who aren’t good for us. Our mindsets don’t align and they might drag you down. Personally I’ve experienced “friends” who weren’t really my friends, talked about me behind my back and when they went down, they would drag me down with them. It took a huge toll on my mental health. I felt like I was constantly falling and not able to get back up. I had to learn that toxic is toxic, whether it be friends or family, and to cut those people out of my life. I’ve lived a much more peaceful life after cutting those type of people out of my life. The people you surround yourself with really can impact your mental health in life in a large way. So take some time to think about if the people you surround yourself are gonna bereft you and your future. If they aren’t and they are just holding you back, then it’s time to let them go and find people who genuinely care about you and will help you grow!!
Something I have been thinking about a lot recently is kindness. Notably, kind words. It has been something I struggled with especially if I am having a bad day, and there are a lot of them; it is so hard to compliment someone or even have a decent conversation without a tone in my voice. But over the last few months, I have made a conscious effort to say something nice to someone everyday. Be that to a friend, my boss, someone in my family or the lady at the gas station counter. In doing that, I see the joy it brings to them, in turn bringing me a sense of joy and peace. As it's said, you never know what someone is going through, and those kind words might be just what they need to turn their day around...or yours. So I encourage you to say something nice to someone today! You are all amazing!
Heavenly Father, thank you for the endless love and protection you have showered us with today. We are grateful to have you in our corner even when we stray from you. You are always there to keep us safe under your guidance and love. We are grateful for everyone in this community and thank you for bringing them to this group. I ask you to offer a little extra love to those of us who are struggling to get through the day. Please continue to watch over us and fill our lives with love and kindness as we sleep tonight. In the lords name we pray, AMEN 🙏
Hey all, Sometimes life is hard. We get in our own heads, or believe things others tell us. It can be extremely hard to believe that you are worth it, and that you can get through even the toughest times. I have been struggling with getting in my own head for a bit here but, having the support group here has really helped. I've struggled with always dealing with things on my own. I've opened up to a very very select few of you, and you know who you are, and thank you. That all being said, if there are others here too that feel like you struggle internally and don't open up, just know there are people in here that you will bond with and will help you get through the worst days. Although we are all here together as a group, it's really nice having those few select members that are your go-to and connect with further. I have never laughed so hard in a while, and I am thankful for this group to have helped with that. You are heard. You can do this. You are enough. It may not seem like it, but you truly are not alone in this group. Sorry if none of this makes sense, or it sounds all like rambles. Sometimes it just needs to come to the page without any logic or structure.
What does self care look like to you? Self care for me is doing everything to become a better version of myself. Even doing things I dislike because I know in the back of my head that will let me be a better person to myself and to others. So, what does self care look like for you? What can you do that will give the world the best version of you?
Good morning everyone! I wanna start doing a weekly check in every Wednesday! We’re half way through the week with a few more days to look forward to so I think this is a perfect time to do a check in!! How is everyone doing so far? Have you told yourself “I love you and you’re doing amazing” in the mirror this week? If anyone needs to talk my messages are always open and please don’t hesitate to send me a message! And if you don’t have anything you need to talk about today could you drop some kind words in the comments for everyone to hear? You never know when you may say exactly what somebody needed to hear to keep pushing through!
Last night I got to burn something that I’ve been carrying around in my mind and soul for 22 years… it was so relieving and I feel as if so much weight has been lifted off my shoulders. On this paper I wrote everything that I wanted to give to God. All of the shame, guilt, anger, and control that I’ve tried to have on my own life. If you are struggling with something, write it down, speak it out loud and then burn it. Send it to God and let Him take the wheel! I believe in all of us, and I cannot thank this group enough for surrounding me with love even when only one really knew what I was doing last night. Reading posts here, and watching the Snapchat last night made me feel less alone and I’ll forever be grateful for you all ❤️
We all have bad days, they come with life, however on those days when something ain’t going your way don’t let that define your day or week. You still showed up, you still made it through on your own two feet and with your breath in your lungs, and that makes it a good day 😊
Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase! Remember it's ok to not know what your doing but remember you have to start somewhere one foot in front of another! Babies don't learn to walk without crawling
Good morning everyone. I’m gonna drop a little prayer for this morning below!! Once you learn to let go and leave your hurt and pain in gods hands you’ll be able to heal. I am still trying to learn how to do this, it’s not easy, but we have to keep trying!!
You made it! We are halfway through the week. I am proud of you and I love you! You can tackle anything that is heading your way the rest of the week! 💙 If you some auntie advice or just an auntie talk, message me, I would love to hear from you. I don't care what I am going through, you come first! Again, remember I am proud of you and I love you! Now go tackle the rest of the week! 💙
For those of us dealing with grief this holiday season whether it’s new or not, this time of year can always be harder. Know that you’re not alone in this pain and we are all here to help, even if that means just listening while you talk about them or cry because you miss them. 💕
It's Wednesday! Half way through the week, you've made it this far, you can make it to Friday! I would love to pray for you, big or small! Just remember you are worthy of His love and forgiven of everything. I would love to pray not only for the hard times, but all the praises too! Know that I am always rooting for you and will always be in your corner. A prayer for today: Thank you Lord for Your blessings this week. Grant us strength and energy to go through this day, as we seek Your face, Your comfort, and Your guidance. Keep us safely wrapped in Your loving arms, and bless us with Your peace that passes all understanding. In Your name Lord, Amen.
Tonight was bad. I got told I’m an object that he owns. I got called so many horrible names. I was told I’ll never amount to anything and that I’m better off not around because not even my own family wants me. I’m trying so hard to climb out of this black hole that i feel is eating me alive but tonight i got shoved farther down it. This hurts and this sucks. I’m continuously crying and my asthma is being set off by anxiety attacks. This sucks and it hurts so much.
The past couple days have been hard for me, and I’m thankful for the ones who’ve helped me through it recently. On the way to work this morning there was a song that came on that I haven’t heard in awhile. It’s called Press by Tamela Mann. To quote some lyrics: “So you gotta press through the fire, you gotta press through the pain. You’re gonna live past the moment, the shine is shining through the rain.” It is such a good reminder to press through the struggles. No matter what you’re going through, no matter where you at in life continue to press on and know you have a family who will always have your back.
Hey. How was yesterday? If it was rough I am sorry to hear that, but guess what, I am proud of you for getting through and being the strong self j know you are! Did you make sure to eat yesterday and drink your water? Today's Tuesday or as I like to call it Taco Tuesday. It's a new day which means it's a new adventure. And you my friend are doing the dang thing, you got up this morning. I am proud of you! remember I love you and I can't wait to hear about your Tuesday!