Welcome @Natalia S and @Liv H to our close-knit community. We hope to hear both of your stories and benefit from your participation.

For the past little while, I've been going through some challenges in my life, particularly when it comes to family and relationships. Because of limitations and challenges my spouse has, and her ongoing battle with AuDHD, I have been forced to take on a lot more responsibility at home than what I am used to. That has caused friction at home and feelings of resentment towards my wife because I have been working long hours to sustain our family and then have had to come home to cleaning, cooking and taking care of children. It has also caused a lot of physical and mental fatigue for me. The feeling of resentment has led to harsh exchanges, which is obviously not good for a relationship. And then...I came across a video of Tony Robbins in which he said that we need to live our lives with a strong desire of contribution. We should not think of our relationships as 'what am I getting out of it' but rather 'what am I giving in a relationship'. In other words our relationships are not supposed to be transactional. We are not supposed to measure or keep track of what we are getting in return for our "giving". If we operate with the mindset that we should focus on giving rather than receiving then not only will we feel more at ease and at peace with the situations in our lives, strangely enough, we will actually receive more than we were in the first place. So as I continue on with this new mindset of 'contribution not competition', I wanted to share this with you all in hopes that it may also benefit you during your life challenges. Best wishes to everyone. Peace!

My former spouse loves to tell the kids the story of our first date. I invited her to meet me at the park. When she arrived, she found me flying the kite in a manner she’d never seen before. I had attached the kite to my fishing line on my fishing rod. I was facing into the sun and had sunglasses over top of my regular glasses. I suppose she should’ve run back then away from me rather than towards me.