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Fabulous Friday

There’s something we don’t talk about enough:

Sometimes our children are mirrors.

And sometimes we don’t like what we see.

When she withdrew and hung onto hurts longer than expected, especially because of her neurodivergence, I had to face something uncomfortable.

She wasn’t just reacting to the world.

She was reacting to me.

Not in blame.

Not in shame.

In awareness.

My intensity.

My urgency.

My old survival patterns.

Here’s what I learned:

You can’t demand emotional safety.

You create it.

You can’t force closeness.

You model openness.

And you can’t rush healing.

You embody patience.

If I had stayed in my old patterns, I may have lost her. (Laterally)

But I chose differently.

And now?

We have a solid relationship built on space, understanding, and mutual growth. Not avoiding what's real and suicide comes up from time to time, but we openly discuss it before it ever get to far, she gets the help she wants and needs in different ways and we build from a place of open conversation vs controled.

The cost of not evolving as a parent is distance.

The reward of evolving is depth.

Micro-momentum:

Ask your child one question this weekend that has no correction attached to it.

“What’s something you wish I understood better about you?”

Then just listen.

Where have you grown the most as a parent in the last few years?

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