3h • Mindset & Motivation
Fabulous Friday
Patterns don’t feel like patterns when you’re in them.
They feel like “this is just how I am.” "It is what it is". Or "This is just life"
I believed that for years.
“I’m just reactive and I can't control it”
“I’m just direct.”
“I just don’t tolerate nonsense.”
But when I slowed down enough to really look…
I saw something different.
I wasn’t reacting to what was happening.
I was reacting to what I thought it meant.
Disrespect.
Dismissal.
Disconnection.
So I would respond to that meaning… not the moment.
That’s the pattern.
And it runs fast and deep.
The hidden payoff?
Control.
Certainty.
Protection from feeling small or unheard.
But it keeps you stuck in the same loops.
The leverage point is awareness.
Noticing the meaning you assign in real time.
Because the moment you question the meaning… the pattern loosens.
“What else could this mean?”
That one question can change everything.
Micro-momentum:
Once today, when something triggers you, ask:
“What am I making this mean right now?”
Then give yourself one alternative meaning.
That’s how you start to shift patterns.
What’s a pattern you’ve started to notice in yourself lately?
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