Dr. J Hernes M Abante
February is a month of love. It is fitting to share with you some principles that will make your relationship with each other pleasant. These principles cannot make your marriage perfect, but they will help you manage and overcome your conflicts.
Marriage was started by God when He gave Eve to Adam as a helpmeet.
It is a divine union. When we do our vows in marriage, we are submitting to God's divine law. Pastors are God’s servant giving their allegiance to God and His Word. Here are some principles we must uphold:
- “Marriage is a divine institution.” God is the head and He must be in the center of relationship.
- Marriage is powered and constantly motivated by the LOVE of God.” God’s love is a gift. It is to be given more than asked.
- Since God founded the home, He must remain our foundation.
- Expectation in marriage relationship is not ‘from’ but it is ‘to’ one another.” Expect to be responsible
- Communication is a two-way Street.”
- It is to be given and received.
- Always communicate seasoned with grace
- “There are always three sides.”
- the side of the “apparently right.”
- The side of the “obviously wrong.”
- The “Perfect side, God.”
- There is no neutrality with God.
- Do not get counsel from someone who will take your side. Always from someone whose side is with God.
- “Know and focus on your primary responsibilities.” Not on your spouse's responsibility.
- Husband must lead with love and grace
- The wife must be a helpmate and submit.
- “Marriage is an eternal relationship.”
- It is an ongoing and progressive process.
- The wedding and the union are once, but the commitment is continuous
- “Marriage is a process.”
- it is God who brought you together.
- Never allow anyone or anything to break this union
- “Whatever God joins, let no man part asunder.”
- “Your goal is to build a godly home and raise godly children. That will establish a holy and godly generation.”
- “Preparation is in the heart.” Are you prepared for this relationship?
- You are being prepared to face whatever comes.