12d (edited) • 🚑 Overwhelm & Support
ADHD Operating System Self-Empathy → Real Empathy
We talk a lot here about “stop attacking the operator.”
But there’s a second half that matters just as much.
If you feel overwhelmed, defensive, misunderstood, or shut down…
there’s a good chance the other person does too.
ADHD makes emotional signals louder. Faster. Harder to filter.
So when a conversation turns tense, the instinct is to assume: “They’re judging me.”
“They don’t get it.”
“I messed this up again.”
This video on Nonviolent Communication: Self-Empathy reframes that moment.
Self-empathy isn’t just about being kinder to yourself —
it’s how you recognize that everyone in the interaction is probably operating from an unmet need.
When you pause and ask: • What am I feeling right now?
• What do I need?
You’re also creating space to ask: • What might they be feeling?
• What might they need?
That’s not weakness.
That’s regulation.
In this OS, we don’t optimize for winning arguments.
We optimize for staying connected without burning ourselves out.
🎥 Watch before posting today:
Call to action (pick one):
A) A recent moment where you felt misunderstood
B) A need you realized both sides probably had
C) One sentence you want to replace with a better question
D) “Lurking — but this explains a lot”
No fixing. No debating. Just noticing.
That’s how this system scales — internally and socially.
Thank you for sharing this video — it landed at the exact right time and put words to something I’ve been trying to explain for a while. Appreciate you.
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ADHD Operating System Self-Empathy → Real Empathy
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