11d (edited) • Course Discussion - UYB
Lesson 3.5 Discussion — Rejection Sensitivity 🧠
In this lesson, we looked at rejection sensitivity.
This is the ADHD pattern where criticism, silence, disapproval, conflict, or even a small change in tone can hit much harder than people realise.
Someone replies differently.
A friend seems off.
You get feedback.
You make a mistake.
Someone takes longer than usual to reply.
And suddenly your brain starts creating a story:
They’re annoyed with me.
I’ve messed up.
They don’t like me anymore.
I’m too much.
I always ruin things.
The painful part is that the story can feel true because the emotion is so strong.
But one of the biggest skills here is learning to separate:
What happened from what my brain says it means.
A short message does not always mean someone is angry.
Feedback does not always mean failure.
Someone being quiet does not always mean rejection.
The feeling is real. But the first story your brain creates may not be the full truth.
Your turn 💬
What tends to trigger rejection sensitivity for you, and what story does your brain usually create?
You could share:
- criticism or feedback
- delayed replies
- short messages
- conflict
- being left out
- making mistakes
- someone sounding “off”
- feeling ignored
- disappointing someone
- asking for help
Example:
Delayed replies trigger me. My brain usually creates the story that I’ve annoyed them or they don’t want to speak to me anymore.
Or:
Feedback triggers me. Even when it’s fair, my brain turns it into “I’m failing and they’re disappointed in me.”
Only share what you’re comfortable sharing.
The goal is not to judge the reaction.
The goal is to notice the trigger, name the story, and start creating a little space before believing it.
And if someone else shares a story your brain tells too, reply to them. Rejection sensitivity feels very personal, but a lot of ADHD brains create similar painful stories.
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Lesson 3.5 Discussion — Rejection Sensitivity 🧠
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