The thing I don't understand IN THE LEAST is how normalized it is to be "yelled at" on a boat. There are only a few male skippers I've raced with who are able to refrain from yelling AT their crew (which is not the same as simply speaking loudly to communicate)... HOWEVER when someone becomes personally insulting, condescending, or drops curse words in there because they're frustrated... I mentally check out. I stop being able to concentrate, I can't keep calm myself, and then I turn into half the sailor I know I am because I'm so flustered. Which is exactly the opposite of what the person yelling at me was hoping for but they're the one who escalated the situation... its so ridiculous! Would they ever speak to the women in their lives like this or tolerate someone else doing that? Highly doubt it!! I'm really curious how other people handle these situations... if we can't yet avoid them altogether.

I pulled this initial group together intentionally — because we’ve already been having these conversations, and I trust how you show up. This is a small crew right now, which means we get to set the tone from the beginning. The goal is simple: Create a space where women in sailing can actually connect, be honest about their experiences, and raise the standard together. Let’s go!! Please post freely and start real conversations that feel natural. Share what’s actually happening out there, and how we want to change this all for the better. I’ll be adding video and educational content as we go, so this can also become a space for learning and growth. If something sparks a bigger conversation or could turn into a resource, bring it! The goal is to make this feel like a space people can step into and immediately think, “oh… I belong here.” Once the tone is set and this space is alive with your energy, I’ll open it up to everyone. Thank you for being part of this from the beginning — seriously. I'm so excuted to build something better together. ⚓

Any chance someone can "Womansplain" 🤣 this to me? I feel like every time I ask, it turns into a math lesson that my brain does not compute anymore once I'm on a boat and things are a bit more chaotic. Thanks in advance!

OK one of the most "guaranteed-to-get-into-an-argument-on-a-boat" moments is when I'm on the bow trying to catch a mooring and Husband is comin' in way too hot or not even at all close enough to give me a chance. Naturally lots of yelling over motors and distance happens next. Would LOVE pointers on how people handle this one... it always leads to an epic for us.

Alright I need you all to run with this one because it’s too good not to 😄 When a man assumes you don’t know what you’re doing and asks, “Can you handle that?” The only response in my head is, “I sure can… but only if I concentrate EXTRA hard with my lady brain.” What are your favorite mic-drop internal comebacks? Drop yours below 👇 Let’s hear them!