Do You Know Your Triggers?
A trigger isn't just something that makes you angry. It's an emotional response that is disproportionate to the current situation. Often, it's tied to something from our past. Maybe feeling ignored reminds you of feeling left out as a kid. Maybe a certain tone of voice feels like criticism you heard long ago. Action for today (just for you): Think about your last argument. What was the exact moment you felt that rush of anger or hurt? From a historical perspective, what is the earliest memory of feeling that way? Getting to know your own triggers is a superpower. You can't control what your spouse does, but you can learn to manage your own reactions.