Everything was ready for the wedding the next day. Mandy, being the queen of organisation, had thought of everything. But I noticed there was something missing. Our wedding theme was inclusivity - we wanted everyone to feel accepted, seen, and included. So instead of a traditional “bucks night,” I chose something different. I gathered a small group of men around a ceremonial fire. I had no agenda. Just deep gratitude for the incredible men who’d journeyed alongside me through life. My 79 year old father, my two sons, my adopted third son, my four brothers, my nephew, and my closest friends. Half the men had never sat in a circle before. The others were seasoned facilitators, familiar with the power of men’s work. That mix created something special - a safe, honest space where everyone felt free to speak from the heart. One friend asked, “What do you want to receive from this circle, Andy?” I said - “Mandy and I are good, so I’m not looking for marriage advice. I’m just grateful to be here and open to whatever unfolds.” One of my closest friends, suggested that everyone share how they knew me and anything they wanted to add. And that’s when it got real. One by one, they spoke. My eldest brother cried as he recalled the days I was “off the rails” - playing in punk bands, partying too hard, and flirting with disaster. He said, “I thought we were going to lose you, Andy.” My heart cracked open hearing that. He wasn’t wrong. Those were dangerous years. And I’m deeply grateful my family stuck with me when they could have disowned me instead. My oldest friend said, “You saved my life, mate. When I was right on the edge, you stayed on the phone for hours and helped me through the darkest moments of my life.” Another man said, “You had no reason to show up for me - but you did, consistently - when I needed you.” My adopted son said, through tears, “I’ve never met my real father — but Andy, you’ve been a father to me.” I wasn’t looking for praise. But the love and reflection in that circle hit me harder than I expected.

I know you're no stranger to ambition and drive. You've poured your heart and soul into your business, and I admire your dedication. But even the most driven entrepreneurs experience moments of doubt, overwhelm, and uncertainty. Most people think that entrepreneurship is all about hustling, sleepless nights, and endless to-do lists. The countless business experts and gurus out there all say the same thing… Eg: You need to push, force and hustle for as long as you can and then you’ll miraculously discover the success you’re craving. I call BS. And the science doesn’t back this up. Researchers studying Flow States have found that subjects in ‘Flow State’ experience a direct increase in creativity & productivity by up to 500%. They can achieve far more, in far less time, with far less effort required. So this turns the conventional logic around entrepreneurial success on its head. When I was a Chinese Medicine practitioner, this was the foundation of my work with my clients. I would often ask myself…“How can I support this person to function optimally with less stress?” Usually the focus of my treatments were to allow the patient to experience ‘deep rest’, beyond the mental noise, and the body would often take care of the healing itself. Forcing our way through life and business only creates more stress and more complexity. A better approach is to align your internal beliefs with your external actions and carve out more time to enter ‘flow states’. Often the solution to our modern problem is not about ‘doing more’. It’s actually about ‘doing less’. Working smarter, not harder. Finding your own approach to work, rather than playing into hustle culture. Watch Flow Mastery if you haven't already :)

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