Often it can be that we want things to be easier or just not so bad. However, another, perhaps more helpful way of looking at things is if we can become better. Not only will we have more capacity, but also grow in self-concept. Share a small or large example of you working on becoming better?

Today we had a lovely conversation on the topic of choices, and we touched upon decisions, consequences, values, living with automatic conditioning or choosing mindfully. All choices come with consequences. If we are willing to learn from our choices, it is always useful. Not making a decision is also a decision. Thanks to all who attended: Andrew, Taras and Paul! Next event, next week, same day, same time - keep an eye on the calendar! Below is a short takeaway which may provide you with food for thought:

People often ask us questions and advice. When we tell them what to do and things don't work out, they blame us. Perhaps it is better to (unless it's an emergency or dangerous situation) turn things around and ask them questions to get them to come up with a good answer that they can mess up and learn from. At least then they can't blame you and learn that they have to take responsibility for their actions and there is a lot of value in "keeping" the power of making your own decisions. What would be good "open" (not yes or no questions) that you might ask if they came to you with a question about borrowing money at a large interest rate?

A big welcome for @Relic Wessels from South Africa. Relic is his REAL name:) He is an (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy) REBT specialist. You can ask him about it, but it is extremely effective behavior change stuff based in Modern Applied Psychology to improve lives. It works. He has worked with me, like these have also worked with me...Tina and Renée, and Jenny.

So, today I "got" to go to the chemists to get some meds for our dog and some new reading glasses for me. To say the gentleman who attended me was "not very inviting" would be an understatement. A year or two ago I would have turned around and walked out. Today I stayed and realized that it had NOTHING to do with me. He was just having a bad moment. No, he shouldn't take it out on others, but he is only "taking it out on others" when the "others" CHOOSE to be affected by it. Your thoughts/own observations?