@Joe McCain, first it was great to meet you in person this past weekend. I’ll take this as a great opportunity to go over one of the group rules, which is “no judgement.” Thank you for sharing and venting — I know how difficult it can be to air out personal and family issues. We don’t judge your son-in-law, your stepdaughter, or you. I will share some scripture, and hopefully this may help in your prayer life. This principle goes back to the “basics” section in the classroom. The Bible tells us in Genesis 2:23-25 (ESV): “Then the man said, ‘She is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” This is one of the hardest parts for parents — letting go of our children once they are married so they can form their own one-flesh union. Giving them the space to live the life they chose, even if it’s not the life we would have chosen for them. It can be painful to watch. But they are now one union and one family. If you feel like you must do something, pray. Pray that they would grow closer to God, closer to each other, and closer to their kids. The Bible also paints a clear picture of what that godly marriage and fatherhood should look like. In Ephesians 5:28 (ESV) it says: “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” The Bible tells us in Romans 8:26-27 (ESV): “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.” Even when we are distraught and don’t know exactly what to pray, the Holy Spirit helps us. I don’t know the backgrounds, but some men grew up without good examples of fatherhood. The good news is that as we grow closer to our heavenly Father, He shapes and molds us into better earthly husbands and fathers. That’s where prayer comes in. Praying that everyone grows closer to God will only improve things. It’s not a quick fix, and it probably won’t happen overnight.