Strength is the skill of responding effectively. There are three strengths. Physical, mental, and emotional. Physical strength. Picture a pile of one-hundred pound bricks. Pick five bricks and put them in a bag. Now imagine carrying that five-hundred pound bag a mile, uphill. Physical strength is the skill needed to respond effectively. Cross the finish line. Mental strength. Remember the game show Wheel of Fortune? Contestants spun a wheel. The wheel would stop on a dollar prize. But, the contestant only won that prize if they guessed the correct letters for a word puzzle and solved it. This sounds simple. But more than half of the guesses failed. Prize money only paid out to contestants with mental strength. They ability to see patterns and connect clues. Mental strength is the skill needed to respond effectively. Solve the mystery. Emotional strength. Few escape adverse life events. Violence, abuse, divorce, neglect. Growing up. At work. At home. These meteors hit hard. They hurt at level eight, nine, or ten. Emotional strength is the skill needed to respond effectively. Understand unmet needs. The full Strength Skill is available free in the classroom here: https://www.skool.com/transform-stress-4001/classroom/4c062a62?md=962a167f3c30496d9cf2b2de708e330e

This is a real book coming out in April. "What to Make of a Life." The author is Jim Collins. He's known for deep research projects in pursuit of useful answers to questions. I attended a preview zoom meeting hosted by Jim. This book tackles stress. But, from a research lens focused on the lifetime arcs of real people from Jimmy Page to John Glenn to regular people like you and me. One big takeaway was how important it is to "find your frame." And, we all wander through "the fog" in pursuit of our frame. So many useful gems from Jim. Check out his interview on Tim Ferris on the book here: https://youtu.be/4eOFHZ7JaJQ?si=vD8KIs_MobP-D9p5

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I believe there are three kinds of stress: Green, Yellow, Red. When we experience yellow or red stress, what are we trying to get back to (answers below). But first, let’s define green, yellow, and red stress: Green stress motivates us. Think: chasing a goal. Real-World Example: I want to be able to do pull-ups in my 50’s 60’s and 70s. For me, the stress of training for this is motivating. Yellow stress annoys us. Think: adulting. Real-World Example: The kids need to get off to school. There is a list of errands to do today. Who is making dinner? The insurance bill is due in two days, etc. For me, the stress of doing things I don’t care about is annoying. Red stress hurts. Think: at capacity, little left to give. Real-World Example: Co-workers or bosses are moody. Management is not meeting team needs. This is creating more work. And, that work is not supporting the main thing. Instead, it’s creating bureaucracy. So, when we experience yellow or red stress, what are we trying to get back to? I propose we want to feel more renewal (recovered capacity). We want connection (a state of trust). We want strength (a really effective response). We can trade yellow or red stress for Renewal, Connection, and/or Strength. Then, our mindsets are lighter, our relationships are deeper, and our work means more in our soul. The map of skills for stress is our path to renewal, connection, and strength. Any one or two skills helps us avoid getting lost when that yellow or red stress shows up. I recommend starting with The Meaning Cheat Sheet Skill here. Then, pick one more skill. Try it out in the next 24 hours. Did either skill help you move from yellow or red stress to green? Share your experience here or send me a message. We can transform stress, together!

When stress shows up, we feel it. Yet, stress can be hard to define. What I experience as stress you may experience as excitement (or vice versa). Not sharing a common stress definition makes understanding someone else's stress harder. Why does this matter? Keep reading. I discovered two useful stress definitions. 1) Stress: the body's non-specific response to any demand. The demand can be good (think: gym workout or crossword puzzle) (source - Stress.org) 2) Stress: what happens when something you care about is at stake (source - Kelly McGonigal) Here's why this matters: When we understand different people experience stress in different ways, we can help them Transform Stress. We can listen, reflect with them, and reframe the demand/event so they feel renewal, connection, or strength again. Example: I had a friend worried about time. This person's calendar was full of tasks and events leaving little room for themselves. About 80% of these time demands were for other people: kids, career, life admin. Keeping up was tough. With no "way out," this friend felt increasing stress. Then, we were having coffee one morning. I quickly attuned to his stress: he was talking fast, a bit frantic in movement, and easily distracted. Knowing fitness was important to this person, I asked, "What's your favorite gym routine right now?" The response: quiet, still, face turning red. He hadn't been to the gym in almost a month (this is someone who routinely hit the gym 3 to 5 times a week... it's a need for him). When I could define stress, I could "see" the calendar time demands were moving his stress meter into the red (quiet, stillness, red face... definition 1 above). I could "see" what he cared about (hitting the gym routinely, fitness, health), was at stake... definition 2 above). When I could "see" these things, I could respond in ways that fostered renewal, connection, strength (pun intended). I could listen better (think: sit there and really hear him). I could relate deeper (think: reflect back what that demand must feel like). I could dance between friend and coach (think: he feels less alone and he feels supported, guided, and responsible to hit the gym again).