1. What To Do First a. Introduce yourself. Share your name, business, how many kids you have, and the biggest tension you feel between work and fatherhood. Well, okay then!: My name is Steve Gay. I teach the drums privately, SteveDrumLessons.com, a few days away from 5 kids (currently 4), and working on the early stages of my business while trying to provide while not neglecting the relationship with my family.