This month, we're doing something different. We're turning toward the body. Most of us have been taught to override what our bodies are telling us. Push through. Suck it up. Ignore the ache, the tension, the exhaustion. We treat our bodies like machines that need to perform, not like living, breathing messengers that are constantly communicating with us. That disconnection? That's shame, too. Shame doesn't just live in our thoughts. It lives in how we've learned to tune out our own physical experience. 🧘‍♀️This week's reflection: When was the last time you actually stopped and asked your body how it was doing? Not to assess what's wrong, not to fix anything, just to check in with genuine curiosity? Right now, pause. Put your hand on your chest or your belly. What do you notice? Tension? Warmth? Numbness? Heaviness? You don't need to label it or change it. Just notice what's there. Your body has been talking to you. This is where we start listening. 💗 xo, Amanda

Over the past few months, we've been building something together in these reflections. You've started to see the shame lens. You've traced where it came from. You've named the shaming witnesses in your story. You've begun separating who you are from what was done to you. That's not small. That is the foundation. And the next step isn't to fix anything. It's to become a different kind of witness to yourself. To turn toward your experience with curiosity instead of criticism. To treat your reactions as meaningful instead of bad, wrong, and in need of fixing. This week's reflection: 🌟 Think about the part of yourself you've been the hardest on. The thing you keep trying to change, manage, or push away. What would it feel like to stop trying to fix her, and instead, simply ask: "What do you need me to know?" That question is unshaming in practice. And you've already begun. xo, Amanda

This is the space to share what comes up for you as you work through Seeing Shame in Your Everyday Life. As you start practicing this week, here's what I'd love to hear from you: 💜 What is one everyday moment where you caught the shame lens? You don't have to share the details. Even naming "it happened at work" or "it happened at bedtime" is enough. You are practicing seeing it. That's what matters. And if nothing comes up right away, that's okay too. Sometimes it takes a few days. Sometimes it sneaks up on you mid-week when you're not expecting it. There's no timeline here. If someone else shares, and you feel moved to respond, a simple "I see you" or a "💗" goes a long way. That's unshaming in action. xo, Amanda

One of the sneakiest things shame does is convince you that you can't trust yourself. That your feelings are unreliable. That your instincts are wrong. That someone else probably knows better. So you look outside. You read another book. You take another course. You ask for permission to do the thing you already know you want to do. And when none of it quite lands, you assume the problem is you. But it was never you. It was the lens. This week's reflection: 💕 Think of a recent moment where you didn't trust yourself. Maybe you held back an opinion, deferred to someone else, or talked yourself out of something you wanted. What were you afraid would happen if you trusted your own knowing? And whose voice was behind that fear? Your instincts have been speaking this whole time. Shame just taught you not to listen. xo, Amanda

EEK!!! I made something for you. 💜 It's called The Shame Lens Quiz and it takes about 5 minutes. Here's how it works: - There are 8 real-life scenarios. - Two possible responses for each one. - You pick the voice that sounds most like yours. By the end, you might notice something you've never seen before about the way you talk to yourself. There are no wrong answers. We're just shining a light on something that stays hidden most of the time. Check it out here! I'd love to hear what you think. xo, Amanda