A few of you have been honest about what's pulling your attention — scrolling, noise, restlessness. I want to offer something that goes one level deeper. Most of that restlessness isn't just a distraction. It's a question underneath the distraction: who am I, and does it amount to anything? A lot of men never sit with that question long enough to answer it. So they stay busy instead. I wrote a short guide called Who You Already Are — it works through Christian male identity, drawing on Ephesians, attachment theory, and shame research. Not self-help. Not motivational. Just an honest look at what it means to know who you are before you've earned anything. Free to download here: https://www.ctrlaltme.co/who-you-already-are-ebook

Receive this today—peace, not earned, but given. 🙏

What has changed in you since you let Him in?

I'll be honest. There are days I still don't fully know what my calling is. And I've been thinking about this stuff for years. Some men seem to know. Their thing, their lane, their reason for getting up. I've watched them and wondered what that must feel like. I didn't have that clarity for a long time. I was good at things that left me empty and drawn to things I wasn't sure I deserved to pursue. That gap – between what you do and what you feel made for – is a quietly exhausting place to live. What helped me wasn't a personality test or a five-year plan. It was a parable. Matthew 25. The talents. One man gets five, another gets two, another one. God doesn't distribute equally — He distributes intentionally. And the story doesn't judge the man who got one instead of five. It grieves the man who got one and buried it out of fear. That landed hard for me. Because I think most of us aren't talentless. We're just scared. Scared it won't be enough. Scared of what people will think. Scared of trying and finding out the thing we hoped for isn't actually ours. I'm still figuring this out. But these three questions have helped me more than anything else: What did you love before life told you to be realistic? What problem makes you genuinely angry that nobody is addressing? What do you do where you completely lose track of time? No right answers. Just honest ones. Don't bury it. Seb

Some days I sit with the uncomfortable truth that I’m the one getting in my own way; I make plans, I set intentions, I even feel motivated for a moment, and then somehow I drift, I delay, I choose comfort over effort, and afterwards I’m left with that quiet disappointment I don’t always talk about; it’s not loud or dramatic, just a subtle awareness that I didn’t show up as the person I know I could be, and I’m starting to realise this isn’t something I fix overnight; it’s something I have to face gently, again and again, learning to be honest with myself without giving up on who I’m still becoming.