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The Initiated Man

15 members • $97/month

5 contributions to The Initiated Man
Initiation, Integration, Inspiration, Relationship... All of the above.
Hey fellas! If we’re getting vulnerable here, i’m going all in Brothers. I wasn't sure which category to post this under so i'm posting under general discussion, hope that's ok Mike. Apologies if I was a bit cryptic with my share during the call, I was wanting to honour the container/time. That was also day 5 of a fast, 20 km’s of hiking and the morning after a corker of a medicine journey. And I don’t share any of this to make myself sound grandiose, or to pedestal myself in any way. I share it to help illuminate the depth and potency of the prayer that I went into my quest with to help me root out & overcome a lifelong affliction i’ve battled, that I will lay out in my story that is to follow. I didn’t need to hop on the call and many may have advised against given where I was at, but for me, it felt synchronistic and aligned and i’m happy I did. Yesterday I arrived back from a solo spirit quest up Okanagan Mountain and it was the most profound experience of my life. I left tidal waves of grief, sorrow and despair on that mountain. It feels vital to share my story with you, as a way to help integrate the experience and also because I know there's powerful medicine in it. I'll start with a bit about my childhood. I grew up in a really religious family with staunch Christian values. As I got older, I rejected it because I could sense all the distortion, the dogma, the fear narrative, the top down model but I could sense the thread of Truth at its foundation. In elementary school I got bullied, beat up and abused in various ways because I was a bright light, I was joyful and exuberant. I won't go into the specifics of the traumas here, not because i'm not open to share but because I want to keep this as concise as possible. In summary though I developed coping patterns, specifically self abandonment through self silencing. In Grade 9 I turned to cannabis as a way to dissociate and numb the pain I felt deep down for these wounds. This exacerbated things as I got labeled as a stoner and it begun a downward spiral of self collapse through self conscious negative though patterns, lack of confidence, inadequacy, social anxiety etc. I got made fun of for most of high school for how I talked, slow and monotonous, “stoner”, “ perma-fried”, “eeore”… I was also what others might label a “cool kid” due to the group I hung with, but that wasn’t really how I felt under all the numbness. There was deep shame and loneliness.
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Ben, thanks for just stepping into it and writing this story of your experience. I hope you read it back to yourself, more than once. There are clues in there that are only meant to be seen by you. But damn, there's healing that comes from just putting things into words. Amazing man🙏
⚠️ LENGTH OF CALLS🚨
Hey men!! another great call.Thanks for showing up in the way you did. I am here to serve in the best way I can and want to get a pulse on what men find the most valuable. The inquiry is on the length of our calls. Please select the length that feels helpful and doable.
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6 likes • 11d
Just a thought, but what about leaning in the direction of reserving an hour for delivering your message and leaving the last thirty minutes open ended for discussion and whatever else might be alive in the moment. So basically, time restricted men can jump off at the top of the hour if they must and will have received the focused message, and the call could run anywhere up to thirty minutes after.
Call tomorrow!!!
Hope to see you tomorrow at 8:30! Link in the calendar
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I was so excited for this call, i'm up North working right now, but I made sure I was free and clear to jump in, aaaand... I missed the detail about the time zone and got there an hour late. And anger came up immediately for me, I definitely swore, out loud, several times in the truck as there was nobody around to hear me. Perhaps it wouldn't have stung so much if the same thing hadn't happened just a couple of weeks ago with my therapist, and that was an unused hour and an embarrassment that cost me 160 bucks. Sometimes I have to learn stupid lessons multiple times🤦. @Kris Smith told me with love that I am a dumbass, and that the call was awesome. I WILL CHECK THE TIME ZONE ON ALL FUTURE CALLS. I WILL CHECK THE TIME ZONE ON ALL FUTURE CALLS. I WILL CHECK THE TIME ZONE ON ALL FUTURE CALLS. With love, Scott ✌️
1 like • 20d
Mike, the time zone was listed, and it was listed in the reminder email too. I just made an assumption and didn't take the extra four seconds to clarify with my reading skills. My fault, hopefully the salt in my wound will remind me to always make sure for the rest of my life. I do appreciate you letting me know it was recorded, I'll definitely give it a watch.
Challenge for you brother. 7 days to execute
Powerful statement I want you to start living by. Learn then do. Embodiment is about bringing thought into action. This one is simple. Might feel edgy. That’s the point. Step into your power here. You can do this. ✅Watch the video ✅Post what gets invoked ✅Comment on another man’s post once it’s posted. ✅Practice celebrating a man’s truth what ever it is.
Challenge for you brother. 7 days to execute
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@Ben Dirk I know our specific paths are different, but that you and I are both part of communities that are closely interwoven, and doing work inside of them that is such a polar opposite to the kinds of energy and personality that we run into so often in the worlds where we earn our living. Really felt that message in your share, I have such a similar experience of my own. Thank you for putting it all out here.
The root of this space is to create FREEDOM
Too many men have been drifting and disconnected from their power as a by product of being around men growing up who were not initiated. Initiation is the very pressure that squeezes a boy into a man. This is the room to do that. Reconnecting to brotherhood and holding each other to the fire with safety and respect. Building real relationships with other men. What I have found over the past 10 years of doing mens work is that the men who show up and tend brotherhood and do the work end up feeling more free inside. Emotionally, Financially, spiritually, and relationally. Every man is born with a mission that is deeply rooted in his soul. Together we are going to refine the clarity of that mission so you can feel the satisfaction of becoming it. The pleasure of giving your God given gifts and having life receive them. It is in that exchange we experience what I call relational reciprocity. That is brotherhood. It is what it was always meant to be. So thank you for showing up for yourselves and for each other here as The Initiated Man begins to take root more and more each day. A culture of men devoted to doing their work to shed the things blocking their mission in their heart taking up more space. If you are here right now reading this. You are a part of the founding members of something that is designed to help men re-discover their power in a way that leads to more connection not destroying it. Together let's fight for FREEDOM! If you are up for it let me feel you in the comments "FREEDOM"
The root of this space is to create FREEDOM
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FREEDOM! But you know, this is a tricky one. I understand, that theoretically, I am free. There are a lot of dreams, ideas about what I might like to do, how I would like my relationships to look like, my career, my hobbies etc... But, like all most, if not all of the men here, I have a lot of responsibilities too. Partnership, child, mortgage, business, broken stuff that needs fixing. So it's easy to say I am free, as a thought, but the reality is that my responsibilities often feel stifling, and that freedom has a cloudy definition. Yes, I chose all of this, and also, I chose a lot of it unconsciously and over a long period of time. Some by design, some by default, some without realizing it at all. Sure, I have a beautiful life AND sometimes I feel stuck in it. The concept of freedom itself seems complicated to me, you might say we have a strained relationship. I think this might be the right group to explore this much more deeply. Happy to be here!
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@Ben Dirk hey man, so awesome to see you here too man!
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Scott German
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Father to one son, in partnership with the same beautiful woman for a decade, little boy trapped in a man's body.

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