How do others handle when the betrayed partner responds to your explanation of root cause with anger, and when attempting to explain that root cause that is rooted in childhood trauma which led to inappropriate coping methods and actions, as an excuse. They feel that the decision is simple that I just chose to cheat on them and that it’s as simple as that just making a choice not to do something. I have attempted to explain that I’m not using my childhood trauma and incorrect coping methods as an excuse, but as an explanation which led to me justifying and escaping. And that knowing this helps me to be able to get to the root of the issue not just. “ not doing it” and actually being able to change.