I really not feeling like productive. It feels like i am passing days. I am not procrastinating but its like i just don’t have the energy or motivation to do anything. Can you guys suggest something…… why December usually feels like the world is ending its more like “will i love me in December as i did in may” …. Everything feels like slow, depressed…

Well, after you admit to yourself your faults and all the mistakes that you make, now it's time to improve yourself and be a better version of yourself. Improving doesn't mean totally changing your personality or perspective, nah,..it's something we can't do. It's our fitrah, and a human can't change it. But at least when we make mistakes, try not to repeat them and realise that it can happen again, so I gotta be careful. Especially when you are around the ones you love your family, your friends, or most importantly, your spouse. Because their opinion should matter in your life. If they are hurt by your actions and your words, you need to stop saying those things, and you need to change your way of talking because it's a must to do. Sometimes we don't even realise it, and we hurt our beloved ones. But then self-awareness hits you, and it's a blessing that you are aware of your actions that's the moment. Go apologise, make things better, and then try , try your best and hard not to repeat that certain behaviour. My dear friends, in this Duniya, our purpose is to serve our Lord and be nice to human beings, be nice to His creations. If we fail at that, then there is absolutely nothing we have done in our whole life. So improve yourself by your past mistakes and be the best version of yourself. Allahumma barik 🤍

In life, at many points, we end up saying things that were neither appropriate nor necessary… But we can’t take those words back, because once the arrow has left the bow, there’s no returning it. So what should be done now? Own those words. Accept it. Say, yes, I said that, and at that moment I meant it. I mean it. And now I feel ashamed. Now I sincerely want to apologize to you, from the bottom of my heart. Some people don’t take responsibility for their behavior. They say things like, “Yes, I said that, but I didn’t mean it that way,” and so on… But doing this makes your character questionable, and people stop taking you seriously. So no matter what happens, own your words and be responsible for them. Allahumma barik 🤍

It’s not always fun, and I can’t seem to enjoy anything. I don’t know why, but I feel so uninterested and don’t feel like paying attention. Last time, one of my closest friends was trying to tell me about a video game, and I couldn’t seem to focus. And I think it kind of hurt him, but it’s not in my control. Plus, I have zero interest in games or anything related to them. Still, I wanted to listen and understand, but aaaaghhhh. I feel like I don’t fit in with him and his sibling, because both he and his sister play video games. It feels kind of childish that I’m talking about this, but it’s not only about games. It’s about everything that I feel has nothing to do with me. When something isn’t my business or interest, I feel disconnected from it, and in that process, I unintentionally hurt people. And I don’t even know how to improve myself or my personality. 🤷‍♀️ Any suggestions? Allahumma barik 🤍

Totally normal until you forget about what you were actually doing. You keep forgetting your daily tasks and routine, and what your mother said to you. It’s all normal unless you behave like an abnormal person. But you know what, my friend? I sometimes do that too, and I agree everyone agrees that it’s a very common thing. But as long as it’s in your hands, you can choose how you’re going to manage your time. And if you are busy, then you should focus on your work, not the person you are missing. If you keep mixing these things, then you’ll mess things up. It’s not advice, because it’s something we all need to understand. It’s important for me too, because I’m also a person who misses my beloved ones. And sometimes it’s so hard to reach them because they aren’t even alive. So, my dear friend, I know life gets so hard and lonely when you lose someone, when you break up, your friend leaves the country, etc. I know it’s so hard that you can’t swallow your food and can’t drink even a sip of water, but that doesn’t mean you’ll stop eating and drinking, nah! Nope, my buddy. There is a saying in Afghanistan, "zindagi migzara", which means life goes on. The same thing my father always tells me: no matter who comes into your life or who goes, your life will remain the same. Just small, very little differences, and nothing else. You’ll soon find relief. Just miss someone enough to remember them, not to ruin yourself in the process. And my dear friend, one day you’ll be able to replace them, InshaAllah. Or if they’re dead, you’ll soon meet them in Barzakh (afterlife). So live your life with that mentality, and don’t be too heartbroken. We understand you. 🫂 Allahumma barik 🤍