When my confidence was in the trash, I couldn’t see myself as a wife. So I wasn’t one. When I couldn’t imagine holding more than $1,000 at a time, that’s exactly where my money stayed. Nothing was “blocked.” My self-image was. Here’s the part most people avoid: Life. Source. God. They all respect free will. Nothing forces itself into your life. Nothing crosses your internal boundary without consent. If you can’t see yourself loved, your will says no. If you can’t see yourself wealthy, your will says no. If you can’t see yourself safe, chosen, or expanded—your will says not yet. And life obeys. This isn’t punishment. It’s sovereignty. Belief isn’t wishful thinking. It’s permission. You don’t get what you want. You get what you are willing to allow. So be honest: What are you still unconsciously refusing? Because nothing— not money, not love, not opportunity— will violate your will to give it to you.

I used to pride myself on having Plan A, B, C, and D. I called it being “prepared.” In reality, it was a lack of trust. Having multiple backup plans didn’t protect me—it diluted my commitment. Plan A never had the chance to stabilize, mature, or reform because I was already halfway out the door, scanning for an escape. When the plan wobbled—as all real plans do—I interpreted that as proof it wasn’t working, instead of a normal part of the process. Here’s the truth most people avoid: A plan doesn’t work because it’s perfect. It works because you stay with it long enough for your mind, nervous system, and decisions to organize around it. When you commit fully, the plan evolves. It adjusts. Opportunities rearrange. Your perception sharpens. Your behavior becomes consistent. But when you stack plans like armor, you end up living every single one of them—through chaos, exhaustion, and constant redirection. The mind is powerful. It knows how to make a plan work once you stop signaling that you don’t trust it. Commitment is not rigidity. It’s trust long enough for intelligence to activate. Most people don’t fail because the plan was wrong. They fail because they never let one plan breathe.