What a great coffee meeting that was this morning despite the technical hitch at the start. Well worth the time and effort and thanks to Dave for setting this up. I'd recommend anyone to ensure they join the next one.

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Do you suffer from it? why do we do it? I have worked on it for years. my education around it has brought me to where I am today. Yet, even though I know the ins and outs of self sabotage, where it stems from, why I do it. I still struggle with it. I have coping mechanisms now. I use them daily and more if needed. Just wondered how many suffer and how others get through it?

Since the age of around 10 I have suffered from a trauma that affected every facet of my life. Since meeting Dave and joining The Everyman Project, not only has my physical condition never been better, but my mental condition has allowed me to challenge all those negative things that held me in prison. Mental and physical often go hand in hand and I began a parallel journey on both. Today for the first time since I was 10, I saw myself differently. Looking back at me from the mirror was someone who had become proud of his achievements and knew his self worth. I have never had pictures of myself, let alone with my shirt off. Now I'm proud and determined more so than before. Its a change anyone can begin. I don't deceive myself that I have arrived, but now I celebrate along the way. Its a great feeling to begin throwing off the shackles. If you are wondering how to start.....talk to someone snd get the ball rolling. There will never be a perfect time.

This day has been trying to say the least. A disagreement accured between myself and my wife, ove the same thing, my kids and my stepkids (her kids). It's the same topic for just about every disagreement or argument. Here is a breakdown of what happened. One of my step daughters will be moving back home after she finishes her studies at her university. She and her girlfriend are moving in. That is fine. The will be paying $1500 a month for the bedroom, all utilities, food, use of the home and yard ( we have a pool). There bedroom is located upstairs, where my office/music room is also located. My wife thinks for the $1500 they should also have my office/music room. My opinion (and it's not changing it) is "nope". I agreed to clean out a few drawers and cabinets under the wet bar, should they need some extra space for storage. This lead to the beginning of the argument. Then I was told that if it were my kids, I'd be fine to give up the space. I explained to my wife that her statement isn't correct, I would give up my office to my kids. This brought up continued disagreement on the topic., I'm just so tired of being told that I prioritize my kids over hers. This isn't the case. I told my wife that I'm not giving up my space to anyone. But of course, she tells me that I would. Which pissed me off. I calmly told her that her statement was incorrect. When I suggested she give up her office to the girls, I was then told that I was changing the topic. Sorry to vent, I'm just frustrated and dealing with the fallout of a oissed off wife. I hope this made sense. I'm just annoyed that this topic brings about so much aggravation and frustration. I'm not sure how to handle the same topic without the disagreements. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.