I hate to write this - it sounds like something else is going on. My initial thought is to say "ok, let's start over, I'll take the ring back and you can re-think if you to be part of my life" and move on. If she doesn't follow, you're better off without her.

@Darwynn McPherson I tried joining, not sure why I couldn't.

The best ones have a very serious and sober Christian world view and reject feminism and yearn for male leadership and are very submissive - these are very hard to find. They also realize that bringing kids is most likely a burden to a man and are eager to make concessions and find ways to make themselves useful in your life because of that. The ones that expect you to fill the role of a father (in every aspect, especially financial) - I think are only interested in financial help. The stories I hear from other men who were expected to be fathers to another man's kids never end well.

@Dennis Hurts Yes, I think most are really looking for financial help.

I would do it.

Well done. I really like your mention that women must make concessions. Makes a huge difference for them if they can significantly change their perspective and accept things like bigger age gaps (~20+ years), a modest lifestyle and a new arrangement like polygamy. Man of course needs to level up and be honorable. This may happen naturally if/as economy continues to deteriorate.