My daughter sent me a message on Sunday night about her dad ( who is an alcoholic) " I know my Dad is drinking again. He keeps calling me and hate not to answer the phone, but he only calls me when he is drinking. I can't have this stress in my life. Her dad and I are divorced. I responded to her in a text " Thinking of you, I know this situation with your dad is heartbreaking, Watching him struggle is awful and okay to feel angry and sad about it.. I need to remind you and myself, that we cannot control his addiction. It is a disease, but we cannot help him until he is ready to help himself. Please make sure you are setting boundaries to protect your heart . You are not responsible for fixing this, I love you" She responded with a heart and said I love you, Mom.