Most people are taught to open DMs with a hook, a compliment and a pitch. And most people can smell it coming from a mile away. Hereโs what I do instead. Step 1: Find a real reason to reach out. Something they posted. Something they said in a comment. Something that genuinely caught my attention. If I canโt find a real reason I donโt reach out yet. Step 2: Lead with curiosity, not agenda. My first message is always a genuine question or observation. Never a pitch. Never a โI noticed you might need help with X.โ Just a real human noticing another real human. Step 3: Listen more than you talk. Most DM conversations fail because people are waiting for their turn to pitch instead of actually hearing what the other person is saying. Hereโs what this looks like in real life: She says: โIโve been posting every day but nothing is working and Iโm exhausted.โ Wrong response: โI can help you with that! I have a program that teaches you how to grow on Instagram.โ Right response: โThat exhaustion is real. Can I ask, when you say nothing is working, what does working look like to you? What were you hoping would happen by now?โ Now sheโs talking. Now youโre actually hearing her. And now you know exactly what she needs before you ever mention what you offer. Step 4: Let the offer emerge naturally. If thereโs alignment it shows up in the conversation organically. I never force it. If someone is struggling with something I can genuinely help with I mention it simply and without pressure. Step 5: Whether they buy or not, stay human. Every conversation is a relationship not a transaction. The ones who donโt buy today remember how you made them feel and come back later. Or they send you referrals. The whole framework is built on one belief, that people can feel the difference between someone who wants to help them and someone who wants to close them. Be the one who actually wants to help. Everything else follows. ๐ค