I’ve added new training material to the classroom to help you understand why identity rebuilding matters and how repetition and emotion can support the development of new beliefs and responses over time. You’ll find the video and audios in the Classroom section, underneath Stage Nine: The Cure. After watching the video, listen to the Identity Reprogramming Audio. Choose the audio option that works best for you: • With binaural sounds • Without binaural sounds Listen consistently, speak the decrees aloud when possible, and reinforce them through your daily actions. Reprogramming your subconscious mind requires focused practice and a commitment to embodying the person you are becoming.

If you previously told your betrayed partner, “There were no emotions involved,” it is not too late to correct that answer. As you reflect more deeply on your infidelity, you will remember feelings and recognize emotional experiences that you did not understand—or were unwilling to admit—when you were first confronted. Going back and correcting an incomplete answer is not changing your story. It is demonstrating deeper awareness and a willingness to tell the truth. Inside the Nine Stages of Infidelity Method™, this requires examining: - Stage Two: Emotional Effect — What did you feel before and during the infidelity? - Stage Three: Interpretation — What did those emotions cause you to believe? - Stage Four: Desire — What emotional experience were you trying to receive? You may have felt excited, desired, validated, admired, comforted, confident, understood, connected, or temporarily free from stress. Those emotions do not excuse your actions. Identifying them helps you understand what drove your actions so you can learn to respond differently. How to begin the conversation Do not wait for your partner to question you again. Initiate the conversation yourself and say: “There is something I need to tell you after reflecting more deeply on my infidelity. I previously told you that there were no emotions involved, but I now realize that was not completely true.” Then continue: “I have realized that I felt excited, validated, desired, and comforted by the attention I was receiving. I did not understand or admit those emotions when we first discussed what happened.” Make it clear that you are taking responsibility: “These emotions do not justify what I did. They help me understand what I was seeking and why I allowed myself to continue crossing boundaries.” Explain why you are correcting your answer: “I am telling you this because I do not want to keep giving you surface-level answers. You deserve the truth, and I need to become more honest about what was happening inside me.”

Hi I'm steven from the uk i am new at this im here to try and fix and heal my marriage after 18 years lying and betrayal.

Hello all ! I am a student of Michael’s Nine Stages Method and i would like to recommend him and his trainings to anyone who is interested in real change. MIchael has helped me unpack my core issues and old wounds and patterns which have hindered me till now. I have been able to understand my patterns of cheating and how i justified my behavior. I am becoming a new man and i owe Michael a debt of gratitude.

Which Free Live Training Can You Commit to Attending? I am preparing to offer live training sessions inside the Nine Stages Method community. These sessions will help you understand your patterns, apply the Nine Stages to your own behavior, ask questions, and continue creating permanent change. Please vote for the time you can realistically commit to attending consistently. Poll options: - Tuesdays at 6:00 PM Pacific Time - Sundays at 5:00 PM Pacific Time - I can attend either time - Neither time works for me