Bullying and neurodiversity
With a lot of respect, I’d like to share something I posted today in my own community. I feel this space is also a good place for us to talk about this topic, and I hope it can be helpful. Bullying of neurodivergent people (autism, ADHD, dyslexia, among other conditions) is very common. Studies estimate that around 77–84% of autistic children experience bullying at some point, which makes it a very high risk factor. Neurodivergent individuals have a significantly higher risk of bullying, school harassment and victimisation, both in educational and workplace settings. They are often targeted with mockery, verbal harassment or social exclusion because of differences in communication, behaviour or sensory needs, which has a serious impact on their emotional development and sense of safety. This bullying often takes the form of verbal and physical harassment, isolation and exclusion, frequently based on differences in communication and sensory processing. The impact can be severe, including low self‑esteem, depression and anxiety. ______________________________________________ Bullying and neurodiversity: it’s not “just jokes”, it’s real harm 🧱 When we talk about bullying, many people picture a couple of mean kids in the playground or an annoying colleague at work. For neurodivergent people, it’s almost never just that. Bullying shows up in classrooms, corridors, group chats, universities, offices, “informal” meetings and comments that hide behind the excuse of humour. And its impact is not just “I felt bad for a while”: it touches safety, health, and how a person sees themselves in the long term. Why are neurodivergent people such an easy target? It’s not because they are “weaker”. It’s because the context paints a target on their back. Some patterns that often show up: - Difference is visible. Communication style, eye contact, stimming, intense interests, hypersensitivity to noise or touch… all of that gets read as “weird”, “too much”, “not normal”. - Social rules are opaque and shifting. Many neurodivergent people don’t easily read unspoken rules, irony, or the mood changes of a group. Others read too much and over‑analyse every cue. In both cases, they become exposed in groups that value sameness. - Power goes unquestioned. When teachers, managers or families don’t understand neurodivergence, they may side with the aggressor (“you’re too sensitive”, “it wasn’t that bad”) or even be the ones who humiliate, expose or ridicule. - The environment is already hostile. Noise, lights, constant changes, lack of predictability. A nervous system that is already at its limit has very little margin to tolerate attacks, and very little energy to advocate for itself.