Transfer Agency Back to Him
After describing reality instead of prescribing behavior, it can be easy to collapse back into a control mindset again when moving onto the next step of communicating with a teenager. Instead of “So you need to start going to the gym/So you need to spend more time outdoors” we want to aim for something like “What do you want to do with that?” Examples: - “What do you think is getting in the way?” - “If you wanted to change that, how would you approach it?” - “Does that matter to you or not really?” Now he’s not being told, he’s being positioned as the decision-maker. Just a thought so as NOT to trigger pushback from him.