Hey Beautiful People! Just a reminder that Ask A Sex Doula returns this Sunday at 5PM EST/6PM EDT! Sex Doula Sheila Jones will be our featured host of the night. Bring your presence, questions and curiosities! Note: To access the free event, attendees will need to join the pleasure project community: https://www.skool.com/the-pleasure-project-8984

Hello lovers, don't miss out tonight's Ask a Sex Doula with Beau Chan at 6pm EST (Panama)/7pm EDT (New York). She'll be discussing her work in sexual wellness and sharing her thoughts on Afrosensuality. Beau is a pleasure activist, sexual liberator, and somatic sexological bodyworker. She approaches pleasure as both a practice and a birthright—an essential pathway to healing, embodiment, and wholeness. Rooted in nervous system awareness, somatic attunement, and movement-based practices, Beau’s work honors the body as a primary site of wisdom and healing. She is the founder of RDU-Sexology, a private practice devoted to sex, sensuality, intimacy, love, relationships, and the many delicious ways we return home to ourselves. Note: To access tonight's event, join the pleasure project community! Link: https://www.skool.com/the-pleasure-project-8984

We say we love ourselves… but do we show up like we do? If a lover says, “I really love you,” but never makes time for you, doesn’t listen, doesn’t honor your needs, what kind of relationship is that? Fractured. Inconsistent. Painful. And yet — this is how many of us treat our bodies. We say the words, but keep overworking, numbing, pushing, performing wellness instead of living it. Cleaning up our act is about bringing integrity back to that relationship. Daily devotion in this erospiritual world simply means all the small ways we come into right relationship with our soma. Start simple: ✴ Listen to what your body is actually asking for. ✴ Offer attention, rest, and presence instead of fixing. ✴ Ask: What am I willing to stop doing that harms me? Pleasure begins here, in the honesty of how we treat ourselves. The body has been waiting for us to remember.

Umoja is the first principle because without unity, nothing else holds; it is the heartbeat of Kwanzaa that calls us into loving, responsible connection with one another. In an erotic context, unity becomes a sanctuary where Black bodies are not only safe, but desired, worshiped, and listened to—where the gathering of flesh is also the gathering of history, resilience, and joy. “Principled and harmonious togetherness,” means not swallowing yourself for the group. In erotic space, that means learning how to press your body into someone else’s body while still feeling your own breath, your own rhythm, your own yes and no. Being present to sensation—heat, tightness, tingling, expansion—lets you stay with yourself even while deeply connected to another. Unity becomes a dance of two nervous systems co-regulating, not one person disappearing into the other. Unity is: “I am because we are” translated into “my pleasure expands because our pleasure is safe, consensual, and honored.” Unity is: “I can feel you and still feel me.” Unity is: “You can trust me with your body because I am listening with my hands, my words, and my willingness to stop.” In this sanctuary, consent is the warm, steady ground that lets the kink get deep, weird, playful, and sacred without reproducing harm. Shame begins to fall away when our erotic life is met with curiosity, reverence, and community structures that normalize consent as pleasure, not punishment. Can you remember or imagine a time you felt deeply connected to someone without losing yourself. What were/are you aware of in your own body, emotions, or boundaries that allowe(d) you to stay present and connected instead of overwhelmed?

One of the things I marvel at is how everything on this planet wants to be noticed, and how everything has it’s preferred way to be noticed. From the way the flowers bloom to attract bees, to the way the birds sings songs, to the drama of the ocean, calling all who play in it. It’s shameless! Why do we (humans) shame being noticed? In what ways do you like to be noticed? Feel free to share a photo of you being noticeable well as your thoughts!