The Real Meaning of Dark Night of The Soul (It's Not What You Think)
What if the Dark Night of the Soul (DNOTS) isn't what we think it is? The spiritual community has blown this concept up. It’s very popular. They treat it like a required stage of purification or a necessary stop on the hero’s journey. They tell you it’s a time of surrendering to divine will, making it sound like a painful, inevitable rite of passage. But what if it can easily be avoided? Let’s look at the list of DNOTS symptoms: - A sense of emptiness and meaninglessness - Feeling lost - Intense sadness or despair - Physical fatigue, brain fog, and trouble concentrating - Social withdrawal and isolation - Loss of interest in former activities - Feeling of stagnation With a degree in psychology, I can tell you these are the exact clinical characteristics of depression. I could pull out the DSM 5 right now and diagnose that list as depression. What if the dark night of the soul is just a self-diagnosis of depression? The problem is people are self-diagnosing a mental health slump as a Dark Night of the Soul to make the suffering feel holy and purposeful. This makes people think they have to go through this misery like it is a badge of purification honor. I'm a two-time Master and Champion of the Dark Night of the Soul. OOoof. If only I knew then what I know now. The foundational Buddhist principle states that life involves suffering, not because life is inherently bad, but because of attachment and impermanence. Life is going to life. No matter how healed, awakened, or high vibe you are, you will encounter the inevitability of the human experience: loss, disappointment, sickness, aging, and change. The initial pain of these events is unavoidable. But the suffering is optional. According to Buddhism, suffering is prolonged by our reaction to that pain and what was, versus what is. This is where choice comes in. No matter how healed you are, life is still going to life. We are here to have a human experience. But how quickly we recognize the suffering and turn it around will decide the length of time we suffer.