Can I talk to the parent who has a list in their head that never makes it to real life? You want to lose weight. You haven't started. You want to meal prep. The groceries are still in store. You want to wake up earlier. The alarm gets snoozed. You want to read your Bible consistently. It's been two weeks. You want to exercise. You're exhausted by 8pm. And then Sunday night hits and you tell yourself..... okay. This week. For real this time. Sound familiar? You cannot pour from empty. And you cannot teach your children discipline, consistency, and follow through if you are not practicing it yourself. They are watching you. Not just how you parent them. But how you treat yourself. Whether you keep promises to yourself. Whether you have goals and actually pursue them. Whether your words and your actions match. The most powerful thing you can model for your child is a parent who decided to become the person they are trying to raise. So today we are not talking about your kids. We are talking about YOU. Step 1 — Pick ONE goal. Just one. Not five. Not a whole lifestyle overhaul. One thing you have been saying you want to do and have not done. Lose weight. Read your Bible daily. Drink more water. Exercise three times a week. Sleep earlier. Meal prep on Sundays. Whatever it is...... pick one. Step 2 — Define what success looks like in 30 days. Not a vague "I want to be better." Specific. "I will exercise 3 days a week for 30 days.""I will read my Bible every morning for 30 days.""I will meal prep every Sunday for 30 days." That is your goal. Write it down. Step 3 — Give yourself a consequence if you don't. I know we talk about consequences for our children. But what about for yourself? If you skip three days without a real reason what happens? No eating out that week? No Netflix until you catch up? No social media until you do the thing? Pick something that actually stings a little. Something that makes you pause before you quit. Step 4 — Set your 30 day reward. If you follow through what do you get?

Some of you are not just tired…you’re bound. Bound to your past. Bound to what happened to you. Bound to old pain, old labels, old versions of yourself. And you’re still showing up every day…parenting…working…functioning… But internally?.......... you’re still in it. This reminds me of Book of John 11… When Lazarus was in the tomb. Dead.Wrapped.Buried. And Jesus stood there and said “Lazarus, come forth.” Lazarus was already alive when he came out…...but he was still wrapped. And that’s where a lot of parents are. You’re alive. You love God. You’re showing up. But you’re still wrapped in trauma wrapped in guilt wrapped in shame wrapped in what happened to you So even though you’re out… you’re not FREE..... And then Jesus said something amazing He said “Loose him, and let him go.” That means: The coming out was one step…But the UNWRAPPING was another. So Kingdom Parents..........What are you still wrapped in? Because you can’t fully show up for your children… while you’re still bound to your past. This week isn’t just about mental health…it’s about FREEDOM. And I’m calling you out of it. Not gently. Not when you “feel ready.” NOW. Come out of the guilt. Come out of the shame. Come out of the identity that says “this is just who I am.” Because you’re not who you were. And your children don’t need a perfect parent… they need a FREE one. If you’re ready to come out of it… Comment: “I’m coming out.”