Great topic! @Jp van der Schyff in recent years I had built an identity around destruction, self-sabbbotage and chaos so much that nothing but trouble stirred up in my life(which only cemented my beliefs about myself ).It was not until in recovery where I started changing that notion and started "proof stackinging"as @Barry Schutte mentioned that I am actually worthwhile,I am good at what I do,I am able to lead by example!Im disciplined,I finish what I start and that I no longer identified with that chaotic identity