I had this girl do a full 180, we started off as really really close friends, started hanging out 4+ times a week, she’d sleep over (platonically), then one day things started to get more intimate n we started messing around n she eventually asks me “what are we” basically, because she asked when imma make her my girlfriend because she doesn’t like sleeping around. Fast forward a few weeks of things going great, shes all over me, im all over her, n then one day she backs away from my kiss and says she just wants to be friends n feels like we’re moving too fast. Complete 180, i took a few days to think, was still hanging out w her during this time (she spent the last month at my place), n day before i cut things off w her i hang out w her n my mom n we go out for drinks, billiards n the casino, honestly fun ass night, n the next morning before she gets ready to come to my grandma’s breakfast i told her she has to go because after she brought up wanting to just be friends because she’s not ready for a relationship, i realized friends dont do a lot of the things we were doing, like meeting my family n etc., and i don’t know what to do now besides maintain no contact. Very confused n not sure if i fucked up somewhere, like by moving too fast or making it too known that i wanted her to be my girlfriend but i thought it was mutual especially since shes the one who initially asked me what we are n i told her lets keep taking things slow n see where things head. But one of the things that stuck w me is that she said she pulled away because it started to “feel too real” n she got scared n said when shes in a relationship it becomes her priority n she told me about all the stuff she’s going through, and its valid but still feel like that wouldnt prevent anything n sounds like bs. I also slept with one of her friends (no feelings n i made it known that i regretted it because im not the type to sleep around with people i dont know n she said that bothered her too) Any advice or insight? (Sorry for the rant, i felt like there was a lot of necessary context)

@The Mutual Man yeah she came over n we talked a bunch but she ended up asking me what I wanted. She said she just wants to be friends and doesn’t want me to just be friends with her if i’m only being friends to see if theres potential for more? She said it sounds like more pressure, and I’m not sure what to do. I genuinely enjoy her company a lot, but I also want it to be known that I do want something more, but I wanna take things slow because looking back we started to take things a bit fast and thats when she pulled away. This doesn’t really make sense to me, because she completely switched up from wanting a relationship with me, admitting she has feelings to then wanting to be strictly platonic. I’m not sure what to say to make it known I want more, but to still take things slow. I feel like im wasting my time or playing myself if I “friendzone” myself, but its confusing considering the switch up. What do you think I should tell her or how I should word it?