1) I think its an all or none type of thing. If you are okay with one coach is building these relationships with some of the players, the other coaches should be doing something as well so that none of the players are left out. This way there is no exclusivity aspect. If the staff isnt willing to use some of their free time doing this, then I dont think any coach should be. Too much potential for divisiveness within the team. 2) Again all or nothing. 3) I would get all the coaches together and decide what we are comfortable with doing. If the rest of your staff is willing to put in this effort with the rest of the team, split up evenly, then maybe this could work. If not I would probably explain to the assistant why these actions could be bad for the team. I understand the importance in building relationships, but to me the cons outweigh the pros in this scenario.

The message should be consistent throughout in my opinion. Process>Results. Control what you can control. I also think that some of the things you are bringing up actually reduce variance. The more possessions you have the less variance there will be. If the other team is truly better than you more possessions will also give you a smaller chance to win. Thats a big reason you see so much stalling in states that dont have a shot clock. Also as Claire said the V in SAVI, Victory, is yours to define. Depending on the age they can and should look very differently. If you are coaching anything below High School Varsity, I think that development should trump winning. That said losing is hard on confidence/fun. Figure out what your KPI's are. You initially said that you are wanting to improve the efficiency on offense. I would say you can use your Points Per Possession. On defense you can use something similar. This should help with the scoreboard fixation. Last thing I would remind everyone constantly, most of the time growth is not linear. Trust the process you have created and stay consistent.

I'm pretty balanced out.

I loved using blue last year with Middle school girls. The wall simplicity makes things some much easier for them initially.

You did amazing this year Jake! I want to say thank you, because you have been one of the most influential people for me so far in my SAVI Journey. I remember basically SAVI stalking everyone in this group, trying to find their games online and seeing how well they do what I believe SAVI is trying to work towards. Watching your team it was apparent from the first tip of the first game I watched that was what I wanted for my kids. I reached out to you and you were so gracious with your time and knowledge I cant thank you enough. I know your kids and community feel the same way. You gave them a season to remember after losing some great talent last year. Also yes, I would also like to know how to stop those players :D.