接訪分享:Curiosity is a love language
「好奇心是愛的語言」...嗎? 這篇文章呼應的我們三月的主題「想像力」,在人跟人之間的互動,想像力會被認為是「關心、在意」. Personally, I couldn't agree more. 程度中高級 ★★★☆☆ 部分精選單字看文末解釋 語氣自然不做作(雖然用了太多的『because』),相當適合開口朗讀!這個禮拜還沒開口說英文的你,跟我一起唸唸看吧! 全篇文章 ⬇️ I was in a relationship for 6 years and he loved me in all the ways you could see. We went on dates, we bought each other gifts, we talked every single day. For a long time, I thought that was all you needed, but what was missing was the depth. He just wasn’t really curious about me. And it sounds silly but he as really into planes so I’d always ask him about them. Every time he picked up a new hobby, I’d ask him what drew him to it but I didn’t realize how much I needed that back until I made a bid for connection. A while ago, my dad and I went to Boston to see this artist I admire. When I came back, I was excited to tell mu boyfriend about it and he said, “oh cool, when you gonna be back?” That was it. It was always like that and I remember thinking “maybe this is something we can work on”. So I’d make more bids for connection, but he never changed. Then one day, around 6 months after we broke up, and I became friends with this girl and one day we were just hanging out. I casually mentioned that I liked this artist, and then she caught me off guard with “what is that you actually like about these paintings?” And I was surprised and said “Oh well it’s the strategy. Impressionism is harder than realism because realism is just copying.” She thought for a second and then she just said, “why do you think that?” And I just froze. It was such a simple question and we barely knew each other then. But I felt oddly seen and heard in that moment because it wasn’t just “oh she wanted to know more about art”. It was that this girl I barely knew was still curious to know more about who I really was and in that moment, I felt more sense than I felt in my past 6 years of relationship I was in. Because talking, dates, and gifts are all rituals of love but being curious was the actual intimacy and making someone feel seen requires a level of genuine interest in who they are. Because love is more than just rituals. It’s remembering that the person in front of you is deeper than the version you already know. And being curious enough to keep discovering because if I love you, I just want to know who you are.