Hi. I’m out of Nashville, TN. Found Scot’s content on Facebook and it’s really hitting me hard. Been married 28 years. Honestly, not sure we’re going to see 29. We had an argument 11 days ago about him buying a car that he didn’t discuss with me, where he steamrolled all over my feelings (I ended up just shutting down) and he hasn’t spoken to me since. I texted him today and asked if he’d like to sit down and talk so we can determine where our marriage was heading and he send me back a pretty aggressive response. So here I am. I’m 54, he’s 56. He thinks I’m controlling, have issues with men, don’t want him to have any fun and am jealous of a car (well, he forgot my birthday again this year, so yeah, I’d say the car is the priority in his life). I would describe myself as strong, independent, practical, with strong executive functioning skills, trying to keep us on track for retirement. I am feeling very alone in this marriage. He has requested a divorce about 8 years when things got hard, he's never apologized and our marriage has really never been the same since. For the last two years we’ve been on opposite schedules… he worked M-Th swing shift and I work F-Su overnights. I just got moved to the M-Th overnight shift starting next week and I’m not excited at all. We just bought a home with an in law suite for my mom to come (coming next week) and sold our previous home. He hates the new house (that he picked out), and he’s been miserable ever since. But the house needs a total renovation and finding another house with an inlaw suite is hard to find, plus I've told him for years that I only had one more move in me… and this one was a doozie. I'm not renovating another house just to move again. So maybe this is my last ditch effort, or maybe this marriage is over. I don't know, but Im here, so there's that.