One of my absolute favorite practices to lead is one that I first learned from Betty Martin in her Like a Pro Wheel of Consent™️ training. It’s deceptively simple, but it opens up some of the most profound conversations about desire, boundaries, and the nervous system that happen in our spaces together. It starts with a single question that almost always changes the room: **“Why don’t you ask for what you want?”** At first, there’s usually a pause. People look down, look away, or laugh a little. It’s like the body is asking, “Is it really safe to tell the truth here?” And then, slowly, the answers begin to arrive. Once the first few people share, the floodgates open. What comes through is raw, embodied, and deeply intelligent. You can hear whole life stories inside a single sentence. You can feel family systems, cultural conditioning, trauma responses, and survival strategies all speaking through the ways people answer. Some examples of what tends to come up: - “I don’t want to be a burden.” - “I’m afraid I’ll be rejected.” - “No one ever asked me what I wanted growing up, so I don’t really know.” - “If I say it out loud and don’t get it, it will hurt too much.” And then there’s the one that landed hard in my own heart: “I don’t believe what I ask for is what I’ll get.” Whew. That one. The ache in that sentence is so familiar. The way it teaches the body to stay quiet, to not bother, to manage everything internally instead of risking disappointment on the outside. That belief has kept me silent on more days than I’d like to admit. It’s definitely a top 3 answer for me. Lately, this question has been echoing through my days: **Why don’t you ask for what you want?** If you feel resourced enough, spend some time with it this week. You might: - Notice what happens in your body when you read that question. Tightening? Numbness? Heat? Collapse? - Journal a list of your uncensored answers, without trying to fix or uplift them. - Track where you learned those answers. Whose voice do they sound like? What memories do they belong to?

You can’t say “I love to read” but “I don’t like the letters!?!” The fundamentals, y’all. I’m reading your messages — and I hear the excitement, the questions, the eagerness for what’s next. But before we run ahead, we need to get solid on the fundamentals first. So let’s build the foundation together. What do you want to master this year — the core skills or understandings that everything else builds on? What feels essential for you right now? Drop your 👇 in the comments so I can make sure we’re starting where it matters most. #pleasureisascience

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