Embarrassing but honest: I used to be that āangry momā
It would happen before I could even catch myself. Messes from the day closing in around me. And from a GOOD day too. A day of fun, and creation and play with my 4 sweet kiddos, homeschooling and taking care of things here on our little farm.š„¹ āWhy am I getting overwhelmed by this?ā Whatās wrong with me? I should be more grateful, but Iām just p*ssed of⦠why am I like this?ā The pressure in the keg already building. I look at the clock, noting my husband will be home soon. Better get my attitude in check and striiiiiiiiiiiive my way out of this crappy feeling. āI donāt like feeling this way, whatās wrong with me? Iām lucky I even have a husband thatās coming home. I need to get my attitude rightā And more pressure building even still š At this point, fight or flight is kicking in and your girl has allllllllwaaaaaaaaays tended toward FIGHT so now, the heat is up and Iām reaching my boiling point. I start seeing the ādisorderā and āchaosā and ālack of stewardshipā all around me as my mind keys in on āthreats to be aware ofāā¦. š The laundry pile. The dust. The freaking SMELL of the garbage can. And holy crap, I look like a wreck! I need to sharpen up before he gets home, why canāt I just do a better job? I start barking orders out of desperation for control, realizing just how much work I still have to do to reach that feeling of āahhh, I did it! My work is doneā and then I catch the expressions on my babies faces⦠My little loves have that āunsure of what moms gonna do nextā look in their eyes and then⦠BOOM.šš„ Thatās the final straw. I lose it, I scream at them to clean up or else, I hustle like a frantic insane person and somehow, in chaos and madness get everything just the way I want it before he comes in. But WHY am I doing this???? Iām not actually mad at them. Their expression broke my heart. So i anxiously sort the clutter in my mind like this: The mess is handled. The kids are in order. The overwhelm? I beat it back to the dark where it belongs. I got it done.