The day your child receives a diagnoses (for us it was with a rare genetic condition) or the day when you realise your child is travelling a different path can be the beginning of a grief you never expected 💔 It’s grieving the child you had visualised & the future you had imagined. The milestones you thought would come easily. It’s the “what ifs.” & the “why us?”🥹 It’s mourning the life you thought your child would have, while learning to navigate a path you never planned and would never have chosen. I can remedy this overwhelming feeling of sadness ❣️ And here’s the part that can feel confusing… You can love your child with every part of your heart and still grieve them! ❤️‍🩹 Those two feelings can exist together. Grief doesn’t mean you love your child any less ( I loved my son so much I just wanted him to have a ‘normal’ life). It means you’re processing the loss of the life you imagined, while embracing the beautiful child who is right in front of you. Over time, the grief softens. It doesn’t disappear completely (& you will find yourself at times wondering what it must be like for your friends with kids who aren’t on this path) but it makes room for acceptance, hope, joy, and a love deeper than you ever knew was possible.🧡 If you’re in those early days, please know this: Your feelings are valid. You are not alone and in my opinion it’s essential to feel all of these feelings in order to become a much stronger version of you. Freedom, healing and acceptance will come when you completely surrender and let go of what might have been, embrace what is and look forward to what can be. I promise you it won’t be easy but it will be worth it - your child chose you 🥰 One breath.💚 One day.💜 One step at a time. 💛 Sending you all much love on your journey G

…..this is your reminder you are more than enough ✨ No matter what your situation or circumstances are, you are on your path for a reason, we might not always like it, it most definitely probably wouldn’t have been a path you d have chosen for yourself or your family but guess what you are on it and you can’t change it, but you can decide to make the most of it and find the good……….let go of what isn’t and focus on what is and what could be 💕 Trust for whatever reason this is how it’s ment to be and know you are the best equipped for this job 💖🥰 https://youtu.be/wXxArQbJ0YY?is=F5c6c9KEx3ZuA-2Y

Take comfort in knowing you are fearfully and wonderfully made, as is your children ☺️ https://youtu.be/QQPrMtX3Va0?is=-P0npyAqD3lz41-k

How present are you? I get it life is busy! But are you the person on autopilot, doesn’t remember the drive to work/school? Rushing the kids to finish breakfast? Do you spend the majority of your thoughts dwelling on the past (which creates guilt/regret) or thinking/worrying/fabricating the future (which creates anxiety/Sadness/depression) 🤔 Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, your power and your control lives in the NOW moment 💡 When your not present you miss vital moments like the smile or the wave your child gave you when you dropped them off at school or the story they told you when you were too busy to listen or the moments in the movie cos your lost in thought or like Ben he just wants me to stop, sit so he can play with my hand to help him regulate 🩵 Someday these will be the moments your dwelling on wishing you’d paid more attention……. Take a moment today to surrender to the world around you…….Be still, find your calm 💗 If your child/children have complex needs, non verbal….. or not…..sometimes all they need is your presence, to be seen or heard by you☺️🌈🫧 I have 3 beautiful boys, all very different but the one thing they all have in common is the need for my calmness & my presence ✨

Ladies apologises I’ve been quiet this week, we are in the thick of mini intensive for Ben so it’s been a busy week. Live calls commence this Tuesday at 8pm. Bring a cuppa and let’s connect. 1st call will very much be having a chat and discussing the format of the calls going forward and what you can expect to gain from them 🥰